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Subject: Re: Something new

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Master Mike

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Date Posted: 21:56:40 10/16/13 Wed
In reply to: Keri 's message, "Re: Something new" on 21:09:10 10/16/13 Wed

Wisdom and confirmation from one Mom to another.

When I was a child care worker in a residential treatment center for very disturbed boys 8-14, we curbed all sorts of misbehavior from insults to fights to molestation and everything in between or outside the not-well-defined box.

There also were long periods of playing games, practicing sports, and the like, all positive.

Then there was the third category. Not misbehavior, no malicious intent, but likely to lead to accidents or emotional hurt to another. We eventually settled on labeling these behaviors "bad judgment" and attempted to make them teachable moments. Sounds like you're following a similar path.

We usually reviewed the incident, got the kid to recognize that they'd not done well but hadn't misbehaved, then asked, "What did you learn from this?" Our disturbed kids usually drew concrete lessons limited to the particular situation. We'd try to get them to generalize it using examples.

How effective was this approach? Follow-up care is the first budget cut in social services, so I don't know.

MM

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Re: Something new	Dee	03:08:46 10/17/13 Thu