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Subject: Re: child discipline and sexuality

Author:
Uwe

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Date Posted: 11:08:28 02/18/18 Sun
In reply to: Uwe 's message, "Re: child discipline and sexuality" on 09:43:48 02/18/18 Sun

Still another word to sexual arousement before and during a spanking: Some years ago a single mom wrote me that she usually spanked her daughter (think she was 8 or so) on the weekends and that was this arousing for her already when she thought about it hours before and that it intensified until she started and while she executed the spanking. But now she feared that she would go too far, because during the last time she had even had several orgasms while she had spanked. So she asked herself (and me) if she should stop all this.

First of all: I am not sure if it was real what she wrote to me. Maybe it was only sexual fantasy and the wish to write it down, send it to somebody and get an answer. But I think, it is also possible that she wrote the truth. So I answered her seriously. In general it is to assert that everybody needs some emotion to spank a child. We are no machines and without any emotions it would not be possible. Mostly those emotions are anger, disappointment, frustration or something similar. Those emotions are not really a good motivation for correct spanking. Sexual arousement is not without risk, but in general I can say that it is better than the negative emotions. The main point is, that the reasonanbility stays on the driver seat. As long as you carefully watch and interpret the reactions of your child, look, how he/she is breathing, how the pupils move etc. everything is ok. And the risk to go too far is not bigger than it is when spanking out of anger. The main point is, that you generally spank because you are convinced that it is good and positive for the future development of your child. The current, emotional motivation of the particular case should never be the only reason to spank. And btw: Parents until the 1970's spanked much harder than nowadays parents even can imagine. And mostly the children did profit from it. So do not be too fearfull.

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Re: child discipline and sexuality	Joe B	09:08:48 03/08/18 Thu