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>>>So, this is something I've wanted to write for a >while >>>now but I never really knew where to post it. I >really >>>didn't want to use Reddit, since that place can be >>>toxic af, with all the shaming and blaming that goes >>>on there and the general condescending attitudes. I >>>don't know if this is exactly the right place or not >>>but it seems close enough. >>> >>>First, some background. I am an only child, raised by >>>my dad. I've always been a bit socially awkward and >>>nerdy, not a tomboy but I also never fit in with the >>>stuckup superficial girls who spend 5 hours doing >>>their makeup and causing drama and such. I never >>>dressed all fancy, but not sloppy either, just >normal, >>>and I was one of the few girls you'd find playing D&D >>>or card games with the nerds in school at lunch time, >>>that kind of thing. I've been told I'm cute, but I >>>know I'm no supermodel (and I don't want that kind of >>>attention anyway). My dad worked in IT, and being >>>nerdy myself I ended up getting a degree in computer >>>science with a minor in English. I'm 28 now and work >>>as a tech writer for a medium-sized company in a >small >>>Canadian city. I love my job and consider myself to >be >>>well-educated and intelligent. >>> >>>Now, my poor Dad. I love him dearly and he's an >>>amazing father who did his best, but he knew nothing >>>about raising a girl or teaching me how to be a girl, >>>including proper female hygiene. I've learned most of >>>it on my own through trial and error, and if I'm >>>dating someone I try to keep myself presentable and >>>clean, but when I'm single I get lazy and fall back >on >>>my old habits (or lack thereof) from growing up. My >>>job allows me to work from home much of the time >>>(writing), which makes it even worse. I get really >>>lazy about things like showering, changing my >clothes, >>>wiping myself and generally keeping myself clean. >>>There have been times when I've literally just worn >>>the same pajamas all week long without even showering >>>if I didn't have to go out anywhere. >>> >>>So the disgusting details... I basically never wipe >>>when I pee, and when I poop I sometimes give a quick >>>wipe to make sure there's nothing big hanging back >>>there and sometimes I don't bother at all. Most of my >>>underwear have stains even when they're clean, except >>>for a few sexier pieces that I only wear when I'm >>>seeing someone. I mostly wear basic plain but comfy >>>panties, cotton or nylon, and they get pretty dirty >>>after a couple days. Even most of my socks look dirty >>>even when they're washed. I do a lot of my work >>>sitting cross-legged on my bed or couch with my >laptop >>>in front of me, and in that position I can often >smell >>>myself (my butt, vajayjay, feet, or general body >>>smell). And, I actually kinda like that. It doesn't >>>turn me on or anything, I just find my own smell nice >>>and it makes me feel good, comfortable, at ease. And >>>clothes you've worn for a couple days have loosened >up >>>and are worn-in, and all that together just feels so >>>comfy and good. I do laundry about once every 1-2 >>>months, and wash my bed sheets maybe once a year >>>unless someone else is going to be in bed with me. I >>>love the smell and feel of a well worn bed and dirty >>>clothes. >>> >>>The way you get used to things as a kid is sometimes >>>really hard to change as an adult, and I don't really >>>like change. I don't know what will happen when >>>someday I meet someone I'm interested in making a >life >>>together with. I suppose (hope) the right person for >>>me will be understanding and accepting and I won't >>>have to hide or change my personal habits to >>>accommodate them. I like the way I live and I'm happy >>>to finally share my personal little secret. Thanks >for >>>reading! >>> >>>Amy >> >> >>Amy, thank you so much for posting this. I can relate >>to a lot of what you wrote. I don't wipe, I've hardly >>ever wiped and I have never paid particular attention >>to general hygiene. I like it that way and I don't >>care. I am so glad to know there are other girls out >>there like me. > >Thanks for your kind words, Liz. One reason I've >wanted to share this is because with billions of >people in the world, I know there must be others out >there like me who don't think I'm gross or crazy, and >I've been looking for some validation. > >If you don't mind me asking, how do you deal with >hygiene when on your period? I do try to be more clean >then, because I worry about infection. That's kind of >where I draw the line for myself, I don't really want >to get that nasty down there. Infections can be >actually gross and a real health risk. I use pads >because I really don't like tampons, but that does >increase the risk of infection if you're not clean. I >do shower more often on my period, and I use wet wipes >when I change my pads just to be sure. I really don't >know what others do, because I've always felt too >embarrassed to ask an irl friend. > >Amy

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