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Date Posted: 15:36:46 08/27/09 Thu
Author: from TX
Subject: Apologies!!!

• Apology & Setting the Record Straight -- Shannon, 13:41:12 08/27/09 Thu
I wanted to take a few minutes to let the pageant community know what has been going on. There is so much gossip going around I wanted you to hear it from me.
First of all, I want to apologize to everyone if my actions have hurt or disappointed you in anyway. I am very sorry for what has happened and wish it was something I could change. All I can do is pray for forgiveness from God and ask for forgiveness from the people I have hurt including my family, which I have done, and then try to make amends. Now I am asking for your forgiveness because I know my actions have affected others. I am not a perfect person by any stretch of the imagination and have never claimed to be. I have faults (many of them) and have to deal with those myself. I have tried to be a good person and a good wife, daughter, mother, sister, and friend. I am not always successful but I do try. I have tried very hard to remain positive in all our years in pageantry and tried to have fun weekends with my girls and our friends. Nothing was more enjoyable to me than to see my girls on stage regardless of what they won. I thank everyone that has ever been involved from the directors to the contestants to the moms and grandmothers. You have made the last 12 years a very wonderful experience in many aspects. Thank you also to Cristina, Amanda, and Susan for all their wonderful coaching and direction. The girls loved you just as much as I did. And all the photographers and designers that have helped us on our journey. I wish the world could see the good side of pageants but they seem to thrive on the negative.
I also want to thank everyone that ever participated in any way in a DDA or DP pageant, especially all the staff – Marilyn, Pam, Janie, Judy, Jennifer, Brenda, Maude, Brooke, and Stephanie. I thoroughly enjoyed working with you to put on these productions and your endless help. These pageants would not have happened without you and certainly would not have been as fun. Especially over the last year. I am very sorry that I was not around to help and could not have asked for a better group of people to pick up the pieces. I want to make it very clear that the staff knew nothing of what was going on in my life and they had no part of it. Nancy Fish now owns these systems and she is a wonderful Lady. She will continue the tradition of putting on a great production and making sure the kids have fun. She is fair and honest and I am sure you will be thrilled with her. I hope you all support her and show her what a wonderful group of pageant folks you are. As for my staff….I know you have all gone your own way and are doing your own thing from raising kids, spending time with your grandkids, or running your own pageant. I truly wish you all the best that this world has to give and happiness your heart can hold. You have served others for so long it is time that you get the chance to focus on your areas of interest. I will always remember our fun times and all the memories we made (and there were a lot). I wouldn’t trade the last 6 years for anything in the world. And I couldn’t have chosen better people to share it with.
Now for the not so great part…THE PAGEANT BOARDS….the worst thing to happen to pageants. I know there have been many things posted on the boards. And people seem to be getting some kind of thrill from all this that I don’t understand. So let me set the record straight so everyone has the same information. I am not going to dive into the specifics of anything because that is for me and my employer to deal with. I will tell you that I am at fault and leave it at that. I will also tell you that the company is not completely innocent in this either. I was in an extremely stressful environment. One that no employee should be subjected too. The worst of which was about 5 years ago when I needed surgery for an abscess and was not allowed time off to have the surgery and was threatened with being fired if I missed a day. I had to wait almost 11 months to have the surgery and my doctor was to the point of almost not treating me anymore because he didn’t want to be held liable for what could potentially happen if the abscess reached by spinal cord…including death. I had to beg him to hang on for a few more months and would get the surgery over Thanksgiving week when I would have 3 days off.
This is just the tip of the iceberg of the things that went on…and there is a whole line of former employees that will attest to the same thing. I know this is not justification for anything I did and I am not here to beat up on them I just want you to understand that everything is not black and white. I should have quit and gone elsewhere and I made a poor choice.
As far as Stuart's Arrest. He was trying to help me. And please don’t judge me or anyone else until you have walked in my/their shoes with chronic pain. Pain to the point you can not function. I did not have the luxury of going to the doctor every time I had a migraine or miss a day of work. I had a family to provide for and thought I was doing what I needed to in order to do that. Yes, I had to use a very strong pain killer because that was the only thing that worked and I did not have time to handle it properly. I got caught up in it all and should not have. It was a very bad choice and I will regret it for the rest of my life. Stuart made copies of a printed out prescription that he received trying to save time and money. By the time I found out about it was too late and had started a repercussion of events that could not be stopped. He is paying the price for it and I am as well. We both know it was wrong and should have never been done. We both apologize to everyone if we have let you down because of this. It all ended with that and has not been done since. I have not taken the medicine in over a year and half and never will again.
Regarding the TX Board – Yes, I was the Board Owner and I set it all up. I tried to provide a nice place for everyone in pageantry to go to so they would have a place to post congrats and birthday banners and other items of interest. I know not everyone agreed with the way it was ran, but I did my best. I tried to remove negative posts and bashing as soon as I saw them, but I couldn’t watch the board 24/7. I have now passed it on – I no longer have the time, energy, or desire to keep up with it. I wish the new Board Owner good luck. She will need it.
I want to thank everyone that has sent well wishes and support. It is greatly appreciated. It is very reassuring when everything is so bleak around you (even if it is of your own doing) to get a word of encouragement. There are many wonderful people out there. Again, I wish the world could see that side of the industry instead of all the negative.
Now, having said all that, I have to ask (even though I know you have very good intentions) that people please stop copying and sending me things on the board and forward emails that are going around about these issues. I am really trying to move on with my life and take care of the things I need to and all this does is just bring more negativity that I just really don’t want. I am having to start over and rebuild my life and my relationships. We are obviously not wanted in the pageant community and we understand that and are finding other things to focus on. So please do not drag us back into it. We really do wish everyone the best and are grateful for the time we had but we (and I) have to have other priorities now. And we don’t want to cause undo stress on anyone.
The next subject I need to address is very difficult. And I am not sure how to tactfully do it. So I am just going to dive in head first. I have tried to leave this alone and even tried to deal with it privately but that didn’t work and it seems to be escalating and only causing grief for a lot of people.
Stacie Konecny-Jones has taken it upon herself to drive a stake in my heart and “bring down” me and my family. She is emailing everyone she can think of to try to get information out of them and when she doesn’t get what she wants she digs on her own. She is using her work computer and assets as well as her privileged position at a law firm to dig into peoples personal records. Including Financial records. And then has the audacity to brag about it. She is not only looking up mine and my family’s information, she has looked up people that have absolutely nothing to do with any of this. Why, because she can and is noise. She thrives on the chaos and is doing whatever she can to keep this going. What is even sadder is that people I thought were my close friends are involved in it with her. Stacie was a very good friend at one time and I would have done anything for her and she helped me out more than you could ask of anyone. She helped with the kids and the pageant activities. But the lies and back stabbing became too rampart and the final straw was when we saw all the gifts we had given her and her boyfriend/husband up on ebay. And then to have the kids walk in and see it was more than I could handle. Then more information about more lies surfaced. And we started being involved in the lies and I could not take it anymore. I have tried to help Stacie at every turn but Stacie does what is good for Stacie and only Stacie. And that is more evident now than ever. I didn’t harass her about what she had done, matter of fact I stayed very civil with her. But enough is enough. And let me get it all out there so she doesn’t have anything else to carry on about….yes, she was involved in the medicine incident and was paid for it because she desperately needed money. I thought I was helping her out and looking back on it, it was VERY wrong. I should have never involved her and I am at fault for that. I have apologized to her and tried to help her out in other ways because I put her in that situation including taking care of a large crown bill so she would not get arrested like the former director of DP was at a pageant for passing a hot check. I disregarded her blatant lies about being arrested for it and the numerous stories she has told people how she got out of it (all different of course). Stacie has emailed me begging me to share information with her so she can help me. When I wouldn’t give her what she wanted (more fuel for her fire) she turned against me and instead of helping has made it her mission in life to take me down. She has kept the posting on the boards going and added her own spin on things (like Kaidi was born addicted-which is the farthest thing from the truth. She was actually sent home early because she was doing so well). She is constantly emailing various people trying to keep everything stirred up. And if she hits a dead end with someone, she moves on or has someone else contact them to get information for her. And in the meantime looks up everything she possibly can regarding our personal information as well as others. If you think she hasn’t looked you up….THINK AGAIN! I just wonder if William or James Manchee know that their business assets are being used for this purpose and that Stacie is completely abusing her position there?
Stacie has now gone to the length of contacting the other parties involved and “told on me” for selling the pageant systems. And Yes, I did get served last night to go to court and explain why I did. Which, I will be glad to do. I did nothing wrong and verified before hand that I was legally in the right to sell the systems. She is obsessed with making sure this issue gets taken up by the DA’s office. I am not sure why she thinks any of this is her business or why anyone on this earth would be so vindictive. But if you are involved with this and her (which I am beyond disappointed with those that are) you better watch your back and anything else she can get at. And Stacie you are more than welcome to attend the hearing. Then you can get all the information you want and report back to your cohorts. Everything will come out at the trial and I have no problem with you or anyone else knowing what is going on.
I will again say that I know the things I have done are wrong. I have been on bended knee praying for forgiveness and trying to make amends. These are things that I personally must deal with and don’t need someone on a personal mission, for whatever reason, trying to take me down. I have never done anything to Stacie to warrant this treatment. I have been warned by many people about Stacie, and my friendship with her questioned and I chose to ignore the warnings. Well now I regret it temendously. You really have to ask yourself why someone that is not involved in this at all is taking it upon themself and spending so much of their work and personal time, making sure someone else goes down in flames. Is that really the only thing she has to do in her life? That is probably sadder than anything else.
Once I again, I want to be clear and make sure that everyone understands that my intent here is to first and foremost apologize to anyone I have hurt. It was certainly not my intention at all. And I will spend the rest of my life making amends for it. And Second, ask that the constant lies, gossip, and nonsense that is being posted and sent around be stopped. It is not good for anyone. And third, make sure everyone is aware of what is really going on here and how someone is getting their hourly thrill from the devastation of others. Hopefully, I have covered everything and there will be nothing else to “discuss”.
And let me address one more issue that has just come to light. Richard McGuire - I have asked you before, multiple times if I or anyone on the DDA or DP staff ever did anything to you that upset you and if we did, I needed to apologize for it and make it right. You have repeatedly told me no. That you left for other reasons. I was forwarded your response to the new owners of the pageants and I am in shock. We supported you from the time Kassie was 18 months old. Every single pageant and many times when you were being trashed. I do not understand your post at all but have my suspicions and will save you the embarrassment of posting them.
To all our pageant friends - We will not be at any pageants so I want to take the time now to wish all of you good luck in whatever you choose to do. Hopefully, we’ll see you some time in a different setting.

Shannon

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o Shannon, We have been praying for your family since we first heard about the issue. I am sorry that someone keeps bring things up. We will miss your family and beautiful daughters (NT) -- A mom who has also been slandered on the boards, 13:19:21 08/27/09 Thu
o I have never met you or attended one of your pageants. But I will say this took a lot of guts to post. Everyone in the pageant world is shocked about it all and deep down there has to be some sympathy in each of them for you, even if only because of your kids. (NT) -- It would seem you have a tough road ahead. Good luck and may your life improve in the future., 13:26:42 08/27/09 Thu
o What a story of bullsh...!!!! You sure like going into depth about your husbands problem, but not your's ! What about stealing millions of dollars from your employers? Oh sad you, how they mistreated you, is that any reason to steal from them? And then using it for pageants no less! I feel not an ounce of pity for you , you made your bed, now lay in it! (NT) -- ., 13:39:33 08/27/09 Thu
 All I can say is what a BITCH. Did you not read? You need to find a new friend in that Stacie chick U 2 would make a great pair yikes (NT) -- lol, 13:41:12 08/27/09 Thu
o OH MY GOSH! I LEFT LUANNE'S NAME OFF THE STAFF LIST. I AM SO SORRY! LUANNE YOU WERE A HUGE PART AND SUCH A HUGE HELP! I ALLUDED TO YOU IN THE SECOND SENTANCE WITH YOUR PAGEANT BUT LEFT YOUR NAME OFF. I SINCERELY APOLOGIZE! (NT) -- SHANNON, 13:39:39 08/27/09 Thu

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