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Subject: Rat for Mrs. Helen (not for younger members)

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Rat to Mrs. Helen

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Date Posted: 07:55:20 02/11/12 Sat

I know you said that you told Marcus and Max to not read stuff with your name on it and I hope they are honoring that.

I am concerned that my "problems" from last month may have caused some questions from Marcus and Max. I know Max seemed especially "curious."

I am only 14 and it was wrong for me to venture into the "adult" world. I did try to be discreet in my description of the issue but I knew people were curious. I was ashamed and embarrassed.

I am sad with myself because I am a Christian kid with good parents and good values and I have been taught properly. I just allowed a really beautiful girl to catch my eye. OK, I am sort of a popular kid and I guess she saw something in me too. I knew early on that she was different from me and I should have broke it off but, well you know how high school is. I am not innocent in the issue as I did willingly participate but I do know that she pushed rather strongly and kept pushing for more. Of course, I did not say no and I, like I said, went along willingly. I just picked a girlfriend based on looks and gave no consideration to her values. Please be assured, we DID NOT go "all the way" but it was getting close.

You are so fortunate that your boys, especially Marcus, are still "young at heart." I am often envious of Marcus. I think sometimes because I was an "early bloomer" that I missed some precious childhood moments. I had a girlfriend and a "job" (I clear snow and mow yards and do painting and raking)when I was 13. Tell Marcus that there is no need to rush growing up and to enjoy being a kid.

Yeah, it is nice to make money and be popular and to have the "hot" girl on your arm, but, at what cost? Truly, high school is hard. I guess Marcus has one more year before he lands in high school. I would not trade some of my successes, academically and in extracurricular activities (I am class President and I write for the school paper,) but, some things should have waited.

I learned a great lesson in friendship. I think deep down that I wanted to be "busted." I had to talk to someone and, frankly, Caleb and I were too close. I knew he wouldn't "do the deed." Even though, at the time, I am not sure I was thinking that way on the surface but needed and wanted it deep down. Part of me knew PJ would do the right thing. I told him all. PJ made a hard decision as a friend and he got his Dad involved. Frankly, his action saved me from doing something that I would regret and may have had to live with for the next 18 years. Oh, yes, I was extremely angry with him at first but, after much thought, I realize he was a true friend.

My greatest regret is that I damaged my parents' trust for me. I am rebuilding that and Dad and I have talked a lot. I just was so broken when my parents found out and I looked at the hurt in their eyes. Dad was right to punish me but, honestly, the knowledge that I had violated the bond of trust was penalty enough.

I am back to writing again and I am currently working on a piece about forgiveness and redemption. God taught me through all of this that His love and forgiveness is greater than anything we as humans could do. I feel my walk with Him is now stronger. I just wish I could have obtained the closer walk through different means.

Jasmine broke up with me through all of this. I should have had a clue when her parents did not seem especially shocked to hear the news of what had happened. The break up hurt but I am a better person now that she has moved on. She is with a Senior now and I assume she is happy.

I entered in on this long rant to essentially offer you an apology. I thank you for "enduring" the often very mature subjects that come up in this forum and for continuing to allow Max and Marcus to stay with us. I suppose certain subjects have come up way before you would have liked but you seem to have handled it all well. Again, my apologies for contributing to the stress.

You have fantastic boys and they are a credit to you and their father but they are also good cyber-friends to all of us. Thank you for sharing them with us.

Perhaps all of us "big" kids could take a lesson from them.

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[> Subject: Re: Rat for Mrs. Helen (not for younger members)
Author: Rat [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 10:18:52 02/12/12 Sun moving up [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Rat for Mrs. Helen (not for younger members)

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Date Posted: 13:07:28 02/13/12 Mon

Dear Rat,

Thank you very much for your concern, and for the nice things you said about our boys. It is true that their father and I have had to answer some interesting questions since Marcus found this forum, and more so since we allowed Max to start posting here, but we are used to answer questions. We have two bright and very curious little boys on our hands, so question answering is just part of everyday life for my husband and I. Your situation did bring up some particularly awkward questions from Max, but we were able to satisfy his curiosity, without telling him anything he is too young to hear. I do appreciate that you did not go into detail when you posted about your situation with your girlfriend. All you older children being careful with your language in your posts is one of the main reasons we continue to allow our boys to come here.

Young man, making bad decisions is just part of growing up. Learning to make the right decision in a difficult situation, is one the most important things parents tries to teach their children, and it is a lesson that takes a long time to learn. Most of the spankings you kids talk about on this forum are given to teach good decision making. I think that you did indeed make a series of bad decisions last month, but you must remember that you made a good decision as well. Talking to a friend was a good decision, and I believe that decision saved you from what could have been a very bad outcome. It makes me sad that children are always trying to grow up as fast as they can. Remember, you have your whole life to be an adult, and only about ten years or so to be a child. I am so grateful that Marcus is not in a hurry to grow up. The fact that he is going to be a very late bloomer is part of that, but his attitude is a big part of it as well.

As far as our opinion of you goes, rest assured it is high. Max thinks you are wonderful, and Marcus thinks you are a good kid. I was very impressed with how open and honest you were when talking about something that clearly embarrassed you. You are a good boy, Ronald.

One more thing before I go. Max was reading in one of your posts and he came across the phrase "go all the way". He asked me what you were talking about, and I told him that you were the one to ask. Expect a post from my baby soon. I trust you to answer appropriately.

Best wishes

Helen

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[> Subject: Re: Rat for Mrs. Helen (not for younger members)
Author: Rat [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 17:03:42 02/13/12 Mon Thank you! I will keep a heads up for that question and I promise to give a thoughtful and appropriate response. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]