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Date Posted: 15:02:46 01/24/12 Tue
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Spider
's message, "If a girl..." on 15:35:10 01/20/12 Fri
Hey Spider,
I'd like to share some quotes with you from another blog,
"QUESTION #42) Ashlee asked: “Is it truly love when you will do anything for the person you care about even when it hurts you in the process?”
DAWSON: You sound like you already know the answer to your question. Of course, the answer is no. Love does not demand you do things for the person in your life that would harm you in the end. Love gives, it does not take. Love heals, it does not hurt. Love builds up the other person, does not tear them down.
But you’re probably wondering why it is that you’re doing what you’re doing—why are you putting up with hurtful behavior, and still calling it love? Unfortunately, many stuck in selfish and destructive relationships have never had real love shown to them. Many of us are so hungry for attention—or what we feel is love—we are willing to do anything, or put up with anything in order to get what we think is love.
Unfortunately, there are times when the person who is demanding we violate our own value system simply to please themselves, will show signs of changing, or even glimpses they really care about the other person. This is what makes it so confusing. The person being hurt thinks if they just love their partner more—perhaps being that one person in their life that never gives up on them—then they will stop the hurting. This won’t happen. Besides, this isn’t love, no matter what how much you feel it is.
You need to protect yourself. If you find yourself doing things with your bf/gf that violate your own value system, get out of the relationship. Talk to someone you can trust about what’s happening in the relationship and let them help you get free."
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