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Date Posted: 19:25:33 06/03/03 Tue
Author: Ann
Subject: Blind Date
Has anyone ever seen the show Blind Date, where couples are matched up and sent out on a blind date and a camera crew follows them around, and at the end they each say whether they'd go out with the other again? Sometimes (rarely) there will be a couple of old-fashioned people who actually have some depth and who don't even kiss at the end of the evening (and when they get two like that, they almost always want to have another date).
But mostly it's these shallow people who end up in a hot tub, or even a shower or bed (!). Or they don't get along and one will say, oh, I knew I didn't want to date him/her as soon as I opened the door because he/she had dark hair/was too skinny/wasn't tall enough, etc.
Now this will reveal just what an old fuddy-duddy I am. :) Compare the Blind Date types to Laura and Almanzo who courted for three years! Of course we don't know how intimate they might have eventually gotten before they married, but we do know they took their sweet time getting to know each other and they were happily married for decades. Imagine if people today took just a little time before they either hopped in bed with someone, or, for that matter, immediately wrote someone off because there wasn't a major spark the instant they laid eyes on each other.
I remember seeing a production of Our Town, and when George and Emily *finally* held hands, I could literally feel my heart expand! I thought what a shame that many young people today miss out on the feeling of real excitement of holding hands with someone for the first time (at least going by what pre-teens on Oprah say they are doing! LOL).
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Re: Blind Date -- LisaE, 00:05:06 06/04/03 Wed
I've watched that show Ann! I find all the little "bubbles" very funny to read. I hated my first date with my now husband, I had written him off. Obviously we did go out again. It does make you wonder if any of those people who didn't feel a spark right away on that show had actually turned down their soulmate.
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Re: Blind Date -- Cindy C, 09:34:58 06/04/03 Wed
I have never watched that show, but would like to comment on your Post Ann...Too many people today are so idealistic in what they think the "perfect" date, or mate should be. Of course, a persons looks are the first thing we see, but I have known some really handsome men that were as shallow as my bathtub water! I have also met some men that were not handsome, but after getting to know them, they became VERY handsome to me because of who they were. These are people that I have met and known through the years and are friends... As for my husband..I didn't want any part of that guy when I first met him..he was good looking, but wasn't my "style" of a guy.. he was a HIPPIE, lol, and I was a teenager in the hippie era from the 70's and I felt like I was way past that. Needless to say, he persued me for a year, and didn't have any luck until that year was up, and by golly, I saw him for who he WAS.. not for the stereotype. It is now 22 years later, and we have not been without our share of problems, but I think that if I would have picked what society thought was acceptable,or went for just his looks and how much money he made, and what he had to offer ME, it probably wouldn't have lasted..I went for the inner person instead.
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Re: Blind Date -- Ann, 11:44:08 06/04/03 Wed
I'm glad you gave your husband that second chance, Lisa! I once read that you should date a guy at least 3 times before making a decision, unless he is "rude, crude, or smell bad," in which case 1 date is enough! LOL
Cindy, your husband was really persistent! You certainly knew he was genuinely intersted. :)
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Re: Blind Date -- Valerie, 15:24:14 06/04/03 Wed
I have watched a programmes that we have over in the UK also callled Blind date, but most of the people on it only seem to want their time on the TV, not many of them get on with each other! I actually met my husband on sort of a blind date and my mum and dad did as well. I wasn't so sure about my husband when I first met him, but my friend suggested that I carry on seeing him as a friend and see how it went, so I did and is was nice just going out on dates and as he lived in a different town, it was usually just once a week or sometimes at weekends, so we got to know each other slowly. Like you said it was a bit more old fashioned but nice. I must admit on the first night I had a feeling he was who i would marry, but we had a lot of ups and downs before we eventually did, 2 years later.
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Re: Blind Date -- Anne, 20:45:30 06/04/03 Wed
Hello Ladies,
this is an interesting thread!! We also have the Australian version of Blind Date over here. Like Valerie said, alot of the people who have been on seem mainly to just want their moment on TV, most of them don't have much nice to say about the other person.
I also feel it's a shame that often, initially, people don't continue to look deeper than just looks. I have a couple of friends who are persistently single because they just can't seem to settle for anything except absolute perfection in their man (must have: looks, great career, house, money etc). And it seems, as they get older they are getting more and more picky! I think if you go have one of those pre-set lists of criteria it will make it very hard to ever match it.
I met my husband 16 years ago when I was only fifteen, he was eighteen. He was quite nice looking, which was a bonus, but the best thing was I spent time getting to know him and found his personality was so brilliant and we have been together ever since. Luckily for me, he says he felt the same about me! At the time I met him, one of my friends, who is still single years later said to me "You could do better than him, he is quite homely looking." (I thought, no, I don't want to do better than him, he is just right!) That same friend said to me just recently, "You have the best husband, you don't know how lucky you are." I think because we just gave it time and neither of us had a list of set requirements, is why it has worked.
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Re: Blind Date -- Ann, 23:34:07 06/04/03 Wed
I wonder if your friend has learned anything from your experience!
And I wonder if it ever occurs to people who are so very picky that maybe other people are being picky about them? Are they perfect enough for the picky people?
Then I'm also amazed that some people are very focused *only* on a very particular physical look. Must have dark hair, dark eyes, be tall, be athletic just as an example. So they keep falling for the same outer characteristics and seem to forget about considering if someone is kind, generous, thoughtful, etc.
Laura at one time didn't want to marry a farmer. But when she found a guy as wonderful as Amanzo and he was a farmer, well, she had the good sense to marry him.
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Re: Blind Date -- delilah, 16:44:56 06/08/03 Sun
I've seen the show a few times. You are so right, Ann!! All they seem to have are big breasted bimbos getting it on with some loser in the hot tub. There's also a show called Illimidate. I've actually seen this one less than the aforementioned. Illimidate envolves four (?) men or women trying to get with the guy or gal. I believe the "winner" is only chosen for the purpose of having a one night stand. These "winners" are easy. I'll take The Amazing Race any day, thank you. :)
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Re: Blind Date -- Ann, 17:10:28 06/08/03 Sun
I saw a Blind Date episode last night that was different. The woman (more of a girl, immature, anyway) was the jerk! The man was fixing her a very nice dinner in his apartment, I mean, it looked great, and well-prepared and he mentioned that he sometimes sang opera. She says, "Opera! You sing. Sing something for me." So he sings a little bit, sounded very good, and she laughs, and goes on laughing and laughing and laughing for a full two minutes. Then her great contribution to the evening is to burp, VERY loudly, after first trying to get him to burp. Later in the evening, in public, she burps again! He was so polite after, in the way he said he didn't think he'd go out with her again, a real class guy. By contrast she was so clueless and tasteless (of course she didn't want to go out with him again, not realizing of course, that the entire audience didn't think she was good enough to go out with him). She would have been perfect for some of the total jerk guys they often have on. She good have gone off in the sunset, blissfully having a burping contest.
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