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Subject: Re: Do you consider yourself to be a "strict" parent?

Author:
DavidE

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Date Posted: 11:50:05 09/29/12 Sat
In reply to: Bob E. 's message, "Do you consider yourself to be a "strict" parent?" on 20:06:22 09/25/12 Tue

We don't consider ourselves strict. We just expect high standards of our boys. The rules of the house are clear, no disobedience, no dishonesty, no disrespect and hard work and attention at school and church. If one of these rules are broken they get well spanked with a strap we keep for the purpose. You have to set the standard of behaviour you feel is right for your family, it's not for anybody else to decide.

Unfortunately corporal punishment is banned in schools were we live with a resultant decline in student standards. That makes it even more important that parents maintian a disciplined environment in the home. That's not strict, just common sense.

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Anthony
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Date Posted: 18:04:31 09/29/12 Sat

I don't consider myself a strict parent but I am not shy about spanking my kids. I'm probably less strict than my wife but she is with them more than I am.

Like others here we have rules and guidelines for our kids' behavior. They know the consequences when they misbehave and we try to be consistent with their discipline.

We think it's important too, that we reassure our kids after a spanking that they are still loved. We just didn't like what they did to deserve the spanking or other punishment.

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Bob E.
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Date Posted: 04:01:51 09/30/12 Sun

Amen to your last paragraph, Anthony! It isn't just "important" to reassure kids after a spanking that they are still loved- IT IS ESSENTIAL! This is something that my Dad did NOT do with me, and in my review of what I needed to do to "spank with love," this was at the top of my list! I wait a bit of time after a spanking (depending upon the age) for my boy to regain some composure, and then go back to hug, kiss, give a back-rub, and do anything that is needed to make sure that I have convinced my son of his complete repair as far as his offense is concerned, and that he is unconditionally loved by his parents. I don't care how much time I might need to spend for this; if there is time to spank, there is time for the after-spank reassurance.

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