[ Show ]
Support VoyForums
[ Shrink ]
VoyForums Announcement:
Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor
of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users'
privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your
privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket
to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we
also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.
Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your
contribution is not tax-deductible.)
PayPal Acct: 
Feedback: 
Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):
| [ Login ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, 3, 4, [5], 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 ] |
[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]
Date Posted: 11:24:02 08/27/16 Sat
Author: Anonymous
Subject: It's a lot harder if your wife doesn't want you to
In reply to: @@ 's message, "Not like married men can't also pursue musical careers" on 11:01:53 08/27/16 Sat
His own career really only took off on a fluke. Had he been married would his wife have been patient enough for him to keep going after 3 albums didn't hit?
He was 35 when things broke open. What if she'd given him until he was 30, an age when many people tell themselves they need to be big or go home and get serious.
But more to the point, would Carol have been supportive of his career? Because it's not about whether one can have both or not, he and Carol BOTH felt he couldn't. Back in the day, she made him choose between a musical career and her. He made his choice.
He's lucky, because musically, his choice has paid off. He has a very comfortable place from which to contemplate an alternate reality. There are lots of other people whose choices (not just musical) didn't pay off. They can look back and see that moment as the point where things all started to go wrong. That can hold whatever option you ended up choosing.
For most of us, we do what we think is the best for us at the time. Same for him. Even if it wasn't, we don't get a do over.
[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]
Replies:
- Thought there was Laurel. (NT) -- Anonymous, 12:15:49 08/27/16 Sat
- If she made him choose between her and music (NT) -- Anonymous, 11:36:59 08/28/16 Sun
- He was only with Carol for less than a year at 15. But he was -- Anonymous, 21:06:38 08/29/16 Mon
- Meant he was with her for over 12 years, but Laurel says 12. (NT) -- Anonymous, 22:28:06 08/29/16 Mon
- No dear, Just repeating what he said -- Anonymous, 21:11:26 08/30/16 Tue
- Wrong again (NT) -- Anonymous, 21:54:04 08/30/16 Tue
- Perhaps you should take a reading comprehension class. (NT) -- Anonymous, 10:39:26 08/31/16 Wed
- Wrong again (NT) -- Anonymous, 21:54:04 08/30/16 Tue