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Date Posted: 20:01:56 03/19/18 Mon
Author: Ellen to Lisa
Subject: Re: My 13 year old daughter
In reply to: Lisa S 's message, "Re: My 13 year old daughter" on 15:31:45 03/19/18 Mon

Lisa, My husband is adamant that the strap will stay and I agree, but I got some heat on that subject from an unexpected source. I speak with my mother and father almost every Sunday either by telephone or face time. On Sunday, I told my parents about Emma's boyfriend issues and what we had done about it. When my father heard that we had strapped Emma and Ethan, he scolded me and my husband for being too rough with his grandchildren. My husband has always been a little intimidated by my father and, well, he's my daddy so when he starts scolding me, I get quiet. He addressed me as "young lady" a couple of times and that phrase always made me nervous because as a kid, if I heard that I was probably going to get spanked. That's the absurdity of the situation. My father, who spanked my bare behind on many occasions, was angry with me and my husband for spanking our children. He was particularly unhappy about the strap. As a boy, he got the belt and the strap from his father. He always said that he would never strap his kids because he felt it was too harsh, especially for girls. My father used a jokari paddle, a hairbrush, and his hand on me and my younger brother and sister when spankings were needed, but he never used a belt or a strap. Now my husband and I had violated his Cardinal principle and he was unhappy. I eventually got the nerve up to tell him that my husband and I would decide what was appropriate for our children. He growled at me, "OK, Ellie, but you two better treat my grandchildren gently or I'll make your lives miserable."

Have you ever run into that attitude from your kids' grandparents?

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Re: My 13 year old daughter -- Lisa S, 19:41:55 03/20/18 Tue