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Subject: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Karen [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07:14:56 02/10/26 Tue My friend and her 22-year-old sister are going down to their lake house this weekend and she asked to go along with them. I asked mom if I could go and she said right off NO you cannot. When I asked her why all she would say is because I said no and there will be no discussion about it. I stomp off to by bedroom and slammed the door. Within two minutes mom came barging in with the brush in her hand. She scolded me and said I was acting like a child, and she made me remove by pants and panties and go over her knee and she hand spanked me and then spanked me with the brush. I was sobbing by the time she finished spanking me and she told me to stay in my room until dinner. Do you feel that mom is being unreasonable and any ideas how I might get her to change her mind to let me go? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Brooke [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:24:24 02/10/26 Tue Hello. Hmmmm. Why won’t she give you an answer? Does she have concerns about your friends?

[> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: MentorForYoungAdults [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:45:50 02/10/26 Tue In life we have little or no control over what others say and do. Which is sometimes unfortunate. Your Mom sounds like my Dad used to be when I was a kid/teen. "No"... "Why?"... "Because I am your father and I said so.". And so it goes. I think your Mom should have given a reason. You are not a kid and certainly have the cognitive ability to understand her reasons, even if you disagreed. While you have no control over her decisions, you do have control over how you handle your feelings and emotions. I can understand your frustration but I feel you set yourself up for the spanking. Unintentionally for sure. It can be frustrating sometimes but you know what... soon you'll be able to be on your own and you can make your own decisions regarding opportunities.

[> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Karen to Brooke [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:22:43 02/11/26 Wed Brooke, Mom has always said after asking her question, because I said so and there will be no discussion. The problem is if after a day or more, if I did ask again, she would say did I not say no discussion, then I would get a spanking for disobeying her.

[> [> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Brooke [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:03:13 02/11/26 Wed Hello Karen. I see. How old are you and why do you think she won’t let you go?

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Karen to Brooke [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:09:29 02/11/26 Wed Hi Brooke, I am 17 and I think the reason is mom does not trust my friend's sister. She has been known to have wild parties. There was a little damage to the living room the last one she had was over the holidays while her parents were out of town. There was a little damage in the living room. Even that she was in her twenties she still got her bare bottom spanked by her dad.

[> [> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Louise Vancisic [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:35:07 02/11/26 Wed You're in a tough position Karen. I'd like to hear her side of the story. Would she be willing to tell us?

[> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: johnny [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:55:54 02/11/26 Wed If she said no further discussion, and you didn't discuss anything...then maybe just a hand spanking for door slamming.

[> [> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Louise Vancisic [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:50:56 02/11/26 Wed That sounds reasonable

[> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Ivy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:15:35 02/11/26 Wed As a teenager (which I assume you are)I would have been spanked for this. This was sass/disrespect/backtalk. When my parents said "because I said so" I knew what the real reason was, and I suspect you do too. Shalom, Ivy

[> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Zoe [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:46:51 02/11/26 Wed Karen, I don't think because I said so is a valid answer to someone your age. I don't think you should hang out with someone who has a reputation for wild parties and might supply you with alcohol is a very valid reason, and it wouldn't have taken long to express it. In the end, if you can't talk to your mom about her decisions, you don't have much of a relationship. You're going to be 18 soon, after all. Are things generally bad, or is this a one time thing?

[> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Karen to Zoe [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:00:28 02/12/26 Thu Hi Zoe, I basically have a good relationship with my mom. Normally I can discuss things with her. I just do not know why she will not give me a reason. I know that she is not a fan of my friends' family. They very seldom discipline except when they really do something bad, then they are spanked. My friend has told me she has only been spanked twice and that was before being a teenager. Now she is just lectured.

[> [> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Louise Vancisic [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:10:58 02/12/26 Thu Maybe you're closing in on the answer. I'm still on your side Karen. You deserve a direct and honest answer.

[> [> Subject: Re: Mom is being unreasonable Author: Angela [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:34:58 02/12/26 Thu Hi Karen,, I think you have a pretty good idea why your mom said no, and did not really expect her to say yes, but had your hopes. Frankly I would not have let my kids participate in a setup like this, even if I approved of the family, it just does not have a good "smell." Obviously further explanation should have been given. But moms are fallible. I am afraid I was guilty of it a few times. Nonetheless that does not excuse your childish tantrum, which quite appropriately earned you a trip over mom's lap! I used to tell my kids that spanking is a childish punishment and they would be too old for spankings when they quit acting like a child. Sounds like your mom and I have the same philosophy.