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Caitlyn
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Date Posted: 08:21:57 12/03/25 Wed
In reply to:
Eleonora
's message, "Re: Appendix, etc" on 11:42:55 11/25/25 Tue
Hi!
Yes, it’s kind of a gray zone. When I think of myself then, and try to be as honest as possible, I know that I was very self-centered. My thoughts after that first year of college weren’t about the impact it had on my parents, emotionally, financially, or otherwise. The were on how the situation affected me, and how I could try to salvage it with as much dignity, self-respect, and independence as possible. It was a poor approach. But at the same time I do try to be kind to her, the then me, and recognize what I was dealing with and what I now know were some of the reasons I acted as I did. There’s definitely room for self-deception. It can be easy to assume the best about ourselves, and blame others for how the situation unfolded.
I’m sure my mom thinks both of those things. She’s happy with where I am now, but like me I think she wonders whether a different approach might have ended with the same result. She’s talked about not realizing just how involved my stepsister would become, but I think any regrets she might have about that have been eased by my stepsister and I still having a good relationship. Interestingly, I don’t think she feels badly about my aunt’s involvement. She seems to think that was a positive in helping me learn responsibility.
My stepsister wasn’t able to be with us over Thanksgiving after all, but it was still a really nice holiday. I got to spend a lot of time with my stepbrother’s wife, and of course playing with the kids.
How are things with you? Getting ready for Christmas?
Take care.
Caity
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