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Subject: Re: To Debbie and Laura

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Debbie To James
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Date Posted: 17:53:12 04/04/25 Fri
In reply to: James 's message, "Re: To Debbie and Laura" on 00:52:56 04/03/25 Thu

Hello James,

Thank you for your note. Aside from the little impromptu reminder spanking I described at the start of this post, I haven't earned a spanking since my huge mistake with the car, which was like 7 months ago! It is definitely my longest streak yet, and I hope to keep it going. At the beginning, my mom and I agreed that she was going to be a bit stricter with me, and "smaller" things might get me some kind of spanking, to keep me accountable, and also to prevent any guilt or negative feelings from building up, like they did when she was using grounding. I think she thought that a quick reminder spanking would work as a punishment for little things, but that turned out not to really be the case. She didn't exactly spell it out to me, but eventually, it seemed like she decided that if I was going to go over her knee, then it would be for clearly breaking a rule. And if I earned it, then it would be a proper spanking, and not just a few smacks. Which is why I was surprised by the thing with the spoon in the kitchen, and why I took it as a warning, and not a genuine punishment.

I think she found less of a need to get on me for "little stuff," mostly because I got my act together. I went through a rough patch when I first started high school, acting more teenager-y, I suppose. With her help, I managed to get through it and now I feel a bit more like myself, but more mature. I think a big part of my problem was that I was trying to act like I was older and more independent, when I didn't really feel that way inside.

Trust me, I didn't completely figure this out on my own. I've had a couple really good and honest talks with her. It was sometimes embarrassing, but I'm really lucky that I have a mom that I can trust. It's also really ironic that getting my butt spanked on occasion helped shake me loose from a bad headspace, which let me ultimately feel more grown up. Because, seriously, it's hard to feel less mature than when you are getting a spanking like a little kid. 😳 I'm sure it wouldn't be helpful for everyone, probably not for most people my age, but it seems to have worked out ok so far for me.

And once I started feeling more like myself again, just an older version, I really didn't need reminders for small stuff. So, that has translated into fewer spankings, and only for the times when I really screw up.

As for your concern about my mom using the super ouchy paddle, she had said she will only use it for pretty huge mistakes, like breaking the law, or putting myself in danger. I find the chances of doing anything like that to be VERY unlikely.

Overall, I feel very lucky that this disciplinary experiment has gone relatively well, and I truly feel for Laura, because I feel like her mom had definitely been too severe with her. I'm obviously not a parent, but that's my opinion, based on Laura's descriptions.

Laura sweetie, if you're reading this, just know that I'm sending you a big hug. I haven't wanted to pester you, but I really hope that you are doing ok.

Wow, this got WAY longer than I meant it to, lol.

🙂 Debbie

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Re: To Debbie and Laura James to Debbie 20:41:56 04/04/25 Fri

Re: To Debbie and Laura -- Same approach different results, 14:09:55 04/08/25 Tue

Re: To Debbie and Laura -- Debbie, 17:35:12 04/11/25 Fri

Re: To Debbie and Laura -- Emily to Debbie - a different perspective, 02:25:00 04/12/25 Sat

Re: To Debbie and Laura -- Debbie To Emily, 16:08:13 04/13/25 Sun

Re: To Debbie and Laura -- Emily to Debbie, 09:28:55 04/14/25 Mon

Re: To Debbie and Laura -- Pastor Robertson, 13:18:39 04/12/25 Sat

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>Hello James, > >Thank you for your note. Aside from the little >impromptu reminder spanking I described at the start >of this post, I haven't earned a spanking since my >huge mistake with the car, which was like 7 months >ago! It is definitely my longest streak yet, and I >hope to keep it going. At the beginning, my mom and I >agreed that she was going to be a bit stricter with >me, and "smaller" things might get me some kind of >spanking, to keep me accountable, and also to prevent >any guilt or negative feelings from building up, like >they did when she was using grounding. I think she >thought that a quick reminder spanking would work as a >punishment for little things, but that turned out not >to really be the case. She didn't exactly spell it out >to me, but eventually, it seemed like she decided that >if I was going to go over her knee, then it would be >for clearly breaking a rule. And if I earned it, then >it would be a proper spanking, and not just a few >smacks. Which is why I was surprised by the thing >with the spoon in the kitchen, and why I took it as a >warning, and not a genuine punishment. > >I think she found less of a need to get on me for >"little stuff," mostly because I got my act together. >I went through a rough patch when I first started high >school, acting more teenager-y, I suppose. With her >help, I managed to get through it and now I feel a bit >more like myself, but more mature. I think a big part >of my problem was that I was trying to act like I was >older and more independent, when I didn't really feel >that way inside. > >Trust me, I didn't completely figure this out on my >own. I've had a couple really good and honest talks >with her. It was sometimes embarrassing, but I'm >really lucky that I have a mom that I can trust. >It's also really ironic that getting my butt spanked >on occasion helped shake me loose from a bad >headspace, which let me ultimately feel more grown up. > Because, seriously, it's hard to feel less mature >than when you are getting a spanking like a little >kid. 😳 I'm sure it wouldn't be helpful for >everyone, probably not for most people my age, but it >seems to have worked out ok so far for me. > >And once I started feeling more like myself again, >just an older version, I really didn't need reminders >for small stuff. So, that has translated into fewer >spankings, and only for the times when I really screw >up. > >As for your concern about my mom using the super ouchy >paddle, she had said she will only use it for pretty >huge mistakes, like breaking the law, or putting >myself in danger. I find the chances of doing anything >like that to be VERY unlikely. > >Overall, I feel very lucky that this disciplinary >experiment has gone relatively well, and I truly feel >for Laura, because I feel like her mom had definitely >been too severe with her. I'm obviously not a parent, >but that's my opinion, based on Laura's descriptions. > >Laura sweetie, if you're reading this, just know that >I'm sending you a big hug. I haven't wanted to pester >you, but I really hope that you are doing ok. > >Wow, this got WAY longer than I meant it to, lol. > >🙂 Debbie

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