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Subject: Re: Denice Answers Debbie's Hypothetical

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Denice to Sasha and Debbie
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Date Posted: 13:07:42 05/26/25 Mon
In reply to: Sasha 's message, "Re: Denice Answers Debbie's Hypothetical" on 20:27:28 05/25/25 Sun

Dear Sasha and Debbie,
That was a very interesting and perceptive note from you, Sasha. You were very lucky to have a mother who remembered very well the occasional emotional turmoil of her own teen years (and how unhappy and stressed such things can make a tween or teenage girl or boy), and so she kindly and generously gave you the attention and relief you needed. (That is, milder hand spankings that she decided on her own to give you from time to time, and that I am sure still got you crying hard and gave you the emotional release you needed.) That is very much the way it is with my children, and the way it was in my own case during those same growing years.

I am married with two children, a girl 14 and a boy 12. Spanking has been our major choice of discipline with them since they were quite small. Like you, they both hate their punishment spankings (long spankings with hand and Lexan paddle), but those are fairly rare these days—about once a month for my daughter and about twice a month for my son. (His fresh and sarcastic mouth and his occasional laziness about his chores and study habits can be his worst enemy.)

They both, however, accept very readily and without complaint or resentment the, “You need a reset of your buttons” spankings that I give them with just my hand, and that I give both more often. Often these result from verbal spats between the kids with language that would make a sailor blush, or just from my observation that the boy or girl is cranky, out of sorts, snapping at everyone, just in a bad and stressed-out mood. These tension release spankings are more like once a week each at their present ages, and with my daughter in the last few months it has been more like twice a week.

I am the one who decides a tension relief spanking is needed, and after discussion, they both agreed to that. By now they are both years past objecting or causing any kind of fuss when any spanking from me is announced--whether a “reset” or punishment spanking is announced.

I am convinced that at 14, my daughter actually seems to like her “reset” spankings in a number of ways. I can see she actually likes having me undress her in the living room in front of her brother and father, and she likes having me put her naked over my lap and then spanking her with just my hand--but spanking her until she has a good hard cry and comes off my lap dancing up and down a bit. As I say, with her lately this is a couple of times a week, and she seems to need and “ask” for these by her mood and conduct.

I must point out, however, that after any of their spankings, after either kind, both want and get lots of hugs and kisses and comfort from me. And, both my son and daughter show the results of their spankings in many, many ways.

They are obviously calmer, much less stressed, very physically loving with me and their father (who doesn’t spank, but does watch and support me in my discipline of them). Both kids get lots of hugs and kisses and lap time with me, and on several evenings a week at their present ages the boy nestles up with me on my lap for an hour or so while my daughter nestles up similarly with her father. Then they are off again to do their own thing.

Also, for a while after a spanking, they play together with a big drop in the squabbling and testiness that at times bedevils them when they play together. I feel confident that both will look back on these years, and their spankings, with some real understanding, fondness and love, just as I look back on my similar spanking years with my parents, and as you seem to do, Sasha, based on your well-balanced, temperate, and anger-free report on your own spankings. My mother, by the way, did things just about the same as I do now with my kids.

This is what makes me wonder if Debbie and her mother might both benefit emotionally and if their closeness with each other might increase markedly, if her mother had Debbie’s full permission to give her stress relief spankings at least once a month (not rigidly scheduled like maintenance spankings, but given when her mother decides Debbie can use a good spanking and a good hard cry to reset all her buttons and help her to wash away any of the stress and tensions that all girls her age have to deal with).

In my case, I am not a sadist but I admit I quite enjoy the task of spanking both my son and daughter as needed. I find spanking them not at all distasteful, and in fact it is a task I find quite pleasant. Debbie doesn’t agree but I think Debbie’s mother probably feels the same. It is possible that her mother suppresses all such thoughts, but I truly feel from Debbie’s reports on her spankings that Debbie’s mother would very likely find spanking Debbie once a month or so to be a quite pleasurable task.

Hope that answers all your thoughts about my posts to Debbie, and I hope Debbie reads this, too. Love to you both, Denice

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Re: Denice Answers Debbie's Hypothetical Luna 14:37:08 05/26/25 Mon

Re: Denice Answers Debbie's Hypothetical -- Denice to Luna, 19:43:52 05/26/25 Mon

Re: Denice Answers Debbie's Hypothetical -- Sasha, 21:16:31 05/26/25 Mon

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>Dear Sasha and Debbie, >That was a very interesting and perceptive note from >you, Sasha. You were very lucky to have a mother who >remembered very well the occasional emotional turmoil >of her own teen years (and how unhappy and stressed >such things can make a tween or teenage girl or boy), >and so she kindly and generously gave you the >attention and relief you needed. (That is, milder hand >spankings that she decided on her own to give you from >time to time, and that I am sure still got you crying >hard and gave you the emotional release you needed.) >That is very much the way it is with my children, and >the way it was in my own case during those same >growing years. > >I am married with two children, a girl 14 and a boy >12. Spanking has been our major choice of discipline >with them since they were quite small. Like you, they >both hate their punishment spankings (long spankings >with hand and Lexan paddle), but those are fairly rare >these days—about once a month for my daughter and >about twice a month for my son. (His fresh and >sarcastic mouth and his occasional laziness about his >chores and study habits can be his worst enemy.) > >They both, however, accept very readily and without >complaint or resentment the, “You need a reset of >your buttons” spankings that I give them with just >my hand, and that I give both more often. Often these >result from verbal spats between the kids with >language that would make a sailor blush, or just from >my observation that the boy or girl is cranky, out of >sorts, snapping at everyone, just in a bad and >stressed-out mood. These tension release spankings are >more like once a week each at their present ages, and >with my daughter in the last few months it has been >more like twice a week. > >I am the one who decides a tension relief spanking is >needed, and after discussion, they both agreed to >that. By now they are both years past objecting or >causing any kind of fuss when any spanking from me is >announced--whether a “reset” or punishment >spanking is announced. > >I am convinced that at 14, my daughter actually seems >to like her “reset” spankings in a number of ways. >I can see she actually likes having me undress her in >the living room in front of her brother and father, >and she likes having me put her naked over my lap and >then spanking her with just my hand--but spanking her >until she has a good hard cry and comes off my lap >dancing up and down a bit. As I say, with her lately >this is a couple of times a week, and she seems to >need and “ask” for these by her mood and conduct. > >I must point out, however, that after any of their >spankings, after either kind, both want and get lots >of hugs and kisses and comfort from me. And, both my >son and daughter show the results of their spankings >in many, many ways. > >They are obviously calmer, much less stressed, very >physically loving with me and their father (who >doesn’t spank, but does watch and support me in my >discipline of them). Both kids get lots of hugs and >kisses and lap time with me, and on several evenings a >week at their present ages the boy nestles up with me >on my lap for an hour or so while my daughter nestles >up similarly with her father. Then they are off again >to do their own thing. > >Also, for a while after a spanking, they play together >with a big drop in the squabbling and testiness that >at times bedevils them when they play together. I feel >confident that both will look back on these years, and >their spankings, with some real understanding, >fondness and love, just as I look back on my similar >spanking years with my parents, and as you seem to do, >Sasha, based on your well-balanced, temperate, and >anger-free report on your own spankings. My mother, by >the way, did things just about the same as I do now >with my kids. > >This is what makes me wonder if Debbie and her mother >might both benefit emotionally and if their closeness >with each other might increase markedly, if her mother >had Debbie’s full permission to give her stress >relief spankings at least once a month (not rigidly >scheduled like maintenance spankings, but given when >her mother decides Debbie can use a good spanking and >a good hard cry to reset all her buttons and help her >to wash away any of the stress and tensions that all >girls her age have to deal with). > >In my case, I am not a sadist but I admit I quite >enjoy the task of spanking both my son and daughter as >needed. I find spanking them not at all distasteful, >and in fact it is a task I find quite pleasant. Debbie >doesn’t agree but I think Debbie’s mother probably >feels the same. It is possible that her mother >suppresses all such thoughts, but I truly feel from >Debbie’s reports on her spankings that Debbie’s >mother would very likely find spanking Debbie once a >month or so to be a quite pleasurable task. > >Hope that answers all your thoughts about my posts to >Debbie, and I hope Debbie reads this, too. Love to >you both, Denice

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