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Date Posted: 00:28:10 01/24/24 Wed In reply to: Cath to Kristina 's message, "Re: Checking In" on 23:36:33 01/23/24 Tue Cath I am sorry you are right, i was wrong about a couple of things, please forgive me, ill hand you the lexan for my own butt hehe So in addition to these bedtime spankings, because of fto, i do punish about two or three times a week. But there is more in addition to that. I mentioned talking about spanking alot and trying to normalize it. see when i was a kid, spanking was normalized, but love and comfort and talking it through wasnt they just left you to cry in your bed "dear diary, daddy belted me again..." hehe I want to clarify it more. These discussions are "mommy says a warm bottom is a warm heart and its true. i punish you from love because i want you to be strong enough to handle all the scary stuff in the world. you know that right?" "you know i was spanked as a girl, and look at mommy now! spankins can build confidence, a good view of yourselves, good body image" "it feels good a day after when its kind of warm on your bum doesnt it?" "you look very cute with red bottoms, darlins" what i try to do because it embarasses them so cute lol is say BARE BOTTOM alot. TAN YOUR HIDE BATTER YOUR BUM BUM TRAIN YOUR TUCKAS lol "oh yes darling i am going to bring you to church early and have a come to jesus meeting BEFORE service" "what do you mean why? so you remember to be good at church. "oh yes red bare bottom over mommys lap her hand falling over and over making it good and red" we discuss teen celebs or kids they know or see when out or at church and if they think they need spankins, SO apparently eleven from stranger things needs a good spankin Other common places are doing dishes together, during tv or family time, when a few families or moms from church are visiting, car rides, picnics, camping trips, hotel rooms, restaurants, at the beach, church, dinner table, bathroom, even in doctors waiting rooms. you get the idea. you ever see an old film called the bad seed btw? Now im reminded of the changing times, anyone else remember the awkwardness of watching a movie or show with your parents and a kid got a spankin on screen? lol i remember that well. I also do shorter on the spot spankings, just medium by hand so it can be and often is multiple a day for small things they may need to work more closely on so those are just grab their arm pull undies down and give 20 smacks, none of the routine for a full punishment. In addition what I call love spanks, theyre a bit harder than a love pat, still sting a fair bit, ill give them randomly again to normalize things examples: They walk past me leaving living room smack smack on thighs go in their room smack smack wash up dinners ready they hug me and say i love you smack smack Theyre doing chores and i see a bum smack smack of course there are nice rubs with a side hug and forehead kisses, and some playful real soft spanks when they initiate it lol Most days I soap both of them at least once, their mouths just get the best of them , if i find theyre too wound up or hyper ill have them do a corner with no other punishment. let me know what you think How about a deal, if you make a lovely long post detailing any and all forms of discipline and discussion(what they said and what you said, reactions etc) given for the day today, i will do same? >Kristina, my lovely friend, > >I am indeed looking for a bit of time to give you some >more answers to the questions you raised. As you know, >in my note to you above on 1-22-24, sent in Q and A >form, I did answer many of your questions, but I had >to stop that night when I was about 3/4 of the way >through. > >I have read with care and real interest (and delight) >the bedtime spanking routine you are using with your >son and daughter, and I am going to adapt much of that >to the way we do things when the Lexan paddle arrives >(expected before the end of this week). I really like >the idea of using a timer for the spankings, for the >spankings for example, the use of the baby oil, and >also and especially the timer for the >follow up with the Lexan the way you are doing things >now. > >The fact that you are giving your two both 20 minutes >with the Lexan (five minutes off that total for a >couple of breaks, but for about 15 minutes of Lexan >paddling)--that really suggests that the Lexan is a >paddle that one can use to make spankings longer and >more effective without bruising or visible damage. I >love that idea. > >Since my three (at ages 15, 13 and 10) are all older >than your two (ages 6 and 9 I believe), I am hopeful >that by using the Lexan very carefully, as you do, my >husband and I will be able to give each of our three a >long and painful spanking with the Lexan that will >make the spanking lessons for them even more memorable >and effective. > >I am also, with the Lexan, going to try putting my two >girls in the diaper position the way you do it--with >me holding their legs stretched all the way back >beside their ears and their bottoms raised on two >pillows. I agree with you that this should make them >"feel" their greater exposure of that spanking area >and make them even more aware of their more childish >appearance as they are being paddled, moreso than the >"Y" leg position that I've been using (which did add >to their "little girl being soundly punished" >feelings). > >There is one thing that you wrote, Love, that I >disagree with you on. As to applying baby oil for the >first time, I said that they will probably wonder what >that is all about and ask me why I am doing that >(since it has never been done before as part of the >spanking routine). You said, "however, if they ask you >why when you are applying the oil, that is >questioning mommy and daddy, and that can not be >allowed, they need to accept what you tell them >because they know you will do whats best for them. It >is out of line to question mom and dads instructions, >and is not honoring thy mother and >father, Cath." > >Alas, I totally disagree with you on that. I think it >is unrealistic to think that when you suddenly start >using a new procedure like that, never done before, >that any child would not have reasonable and perfectly >normal questions that would arise: "What is this? This >is something new! What is mom doing? I wonder why she >is putting some kind of liquid on my bottom?" It >would, in my opinion, be perfectly normal and expected >for the child to ask about it. To do that is not >questioning my authority, not challenging my right to >do this, not questioning my "instructions"--it is >simply a normal, human, understandable reaction to >something new being introduced. > >So, Kristina, I would be surprised if I started to >apply baby oil without any explanation (which is >probably the way I would do it) if the first one >getting the baby oil applied with the other one >watching, DIDN'T ASK ME WHAT THIS WAS ALL ABOUT! And, >as I said, I would actually enjoy responding to that >perfectly normal question, by telling the girl--and >shocking both girls and the boy, too--"Oh, this is >baby oil, Sweetie. I am applying it because it will >make the spanks hurt more when I am spanking you!" And >I'll bet that is what will happen in the case of my >kids. And I will have trouble keeping a straight face >and not laughing when I tell then that. > >So, anyway, that is a small point of difference. I >don't feel a reasonable question from one of the kids >about why I am now applying baby oil, which we never >did before, is somehow to be viewed as an >inappropriate or disrespectful question for a child to >ask. As I say, I'd be astonished if they DIDN'T ask >why I was suddenly applying baby oil to their bottoms. >And, LOL, I do think the answer they'll get back will >leave them wide-eyed > >Now, in passing here, I also note that you wrote to me >that when I am holding the two girls while Tom is >paddling Jimmy, you hoped I would use that occasion to >add a little "fire" to the occasion, teasing the girls >who still have more spankings coming, and emphasizing >what a thorough spanking Jimmie is getting, by >pointing at Jimmie's bottom and saying things like, >"See how red his bum is getting?" "See how daddy >controls his kicking?" "My, his bum is getting warm, >huh girls?" > >Now I did tell you that in fact that is exactly the >kinds of things I do say to the girls when Jimmy is >being spanked, and that I say to the other watching >kids when any one of them is being spanked, and it is >also the kinds of things I'll say before and during >their own spankings--the purpose being to elevate and >"kick up" for the kids the whole experience of both >getting and watching a sound spanking delivered. (For >example, one of the girls being spanked might say or >yell early on like, "OWWWTCH! MOOOM! That HUUURTS! >THAT HUUUURTS!" >And I'll keep right on spanking and say something >like, "Yes, Baby, I KNOW it hurts! And it stings >really bad when I spank you here, doesn't it, Sweetie! >And HERE! And HERE!") > >I do this, yes, and I do it in a teasing and light way >but it lets them know I am not going to stop because >they yell or try to demand it, that I am in charge and >I will stop when I decide to stop, but I am not >screaming at them telling them to shut up and take it, >or telling them that they are bad or evil or nasty >like some parents do. My voice is calm, light, >teasing, needling, and this also lets them know that >there is no anger in Tom or I when we spank, and that >we are indeed going to continue right on and give them >a really good, sound spanking because that is what >they need. I think, not sure but pretty sure, that is >the spirit you were trying to convey in your remarks >about hoping I made those comments to the girls when >Jimmy was being spanked--"See girls what a good >spanking your father is giving Jimmie! Oh listen to >him yell now, Girls! It really hurts when Tom spanks >him there!" > >I DO HOPE OTHERS ON THIS THREAD FEEL FREE TO JUMP IN >ANYTIME WITH COMMENTS OR QUESTIONS. THESE NOTES ARE >FOR ALL TO READ AND RESPOND TO WHO ARE INTERESTED! >LOVE TO HEAR FROM OTHERS. > >Anyway, Sweet Girl, I can hardly wait for the paddle >to arrive, to try the new diaper position with the >girls, to use the baby oil before the hand spankings >and before the Lexan paddling's, AND to use my egg >timer (perfect for the job) to time the spankings and >paddling's of my three and assure they get nice, long, >hard and very thorough bedtime spankings. Drop me a >line or ten when you can--LOL! Lots of love, Cath > > > > > > >> >>>>Hello Cath , just wanted to say hello and check in >>>>wince we missed hearing from you last night :) hope >>>>all is well and we hear from you some more soon! >>> >>>Good afternoon, Dear Kristina, >>> >>>Thank you for that sweet note about not hearing from >>>me yesterday. Had a wonderful evening doing our >>>parental duties, but then to bed right after with my >>>husband, both of us feeling wonderful and fired up, >>>and it was over an hour before we finally curled up >>>together and had a wonderful, deep, rejuvenating >>>night’s sleep. Giving our two darlings their >bedtime >>>spankings is working really great for them, but it is >>>also a wonderful present for us, too. >>> >>>The kids woke up rested, bright-eyed, and full of >>>energy this morning and they gave both of us loving >>>hugs and kisses before they went off to school. >>> >>>Just got back from the market and guess what?—one >of >>>today’s items I bought was their largest size >>>container of baby oil! Haven’t had that around for >>>years! How do those lyrics go from West Side Story, >>>“Tonight, tonight, it all begins tonight…” >>> >>>I know it could seem very, very wicked of me to even >>>think of this, but since you have a fun and teasing >>>nature, Kristina, you will probably appreciate my >>>feelings when I say this. The thing is I can’t wait >>>to start to apply that baby oil tonight to my >>>daughter, and when she asks why I am doing that, give >>>her a nice big kiss and look her in the eye and tell >>>her, “This? Oh, this is so the spanks I give you >>>will hurt even more, Sweetie!” >>> >>>I’d like to have a camera on both of their faces >>>when I tell them that. Still, let’s face it, the >>>whole purpose of a good and proper spanking is to >make >>>the bottom sting really good and to bring lots of >>>tears, and to bring the lesson home the best we can, >>>right? So your suggestion to apply baby lotion before >>>spanking because the spanks will hurt more sounds >like >>>a really great idea to me, and thanks for that tip. >>> >>>I’m sure you read that last note from Yvonne. It >>>sounds like she did a great job with her first >bedtime >>>spankings of her kids, so you and I can feel good we >>>helped with that. I’m going to post a note to her >>>below right now. >>> >>>Oh, Kristina—I am so glad we found this site and >>>you!--my sweet, spanking, fellow mother! I love your >>>great comments and suggestions. Love, love, love, >Cath [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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