Re: Cath to Kristina -- Christian Family Discipline

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Subject: Re: Cath to Kristina

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Cath to Kristina (Question Answers)

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Date Posted: 22:54:21 01/28/24 Sun
In reply to: Kristina 's message, "Re: Cath to Kristina" on 15:43:04 01/28/24 Sun

Dear Kristina;

Here are some answers to your questions and comments. I'll put a Q before each one I answer, whether it is a question or just a comment.
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Q.Oh lovely Cath, i have a suggestion, I usually do this
>on Sundays, taking them to the spanking room BEFORE
>service to give a hand spanking as a warning?
As I mentioned in one of the last posts, my church does not spanking or crying room for folks to use. (Fear that outsiders might come in to the church, find kids being spanked or see them, and cause trouble for the church.)
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Q. And YES Cath please ALL the juicy step by step details
>of the pastors wife spanking [of Jimmy]please.
Did that in the last posts.

Q. I am dying to hear how you do punishments on the day to day, how often, procedures, etc. I am sure you'll have some interesting insight.
I did give some details about that in some of the last posts to you and this site. Basically, we believe in frequent spankings, so even though we are now using nightly bedtime spankings, I do a fair number of "on-the-spot" spankings on any given day. That applies to all three. It is not always for misconduct or neglect of chores or that sort of thing--sometimes it is--but sometimes it is just what I call a "reminder" spanking, again to keep up spanking frequency, and to keep all three on their best behavior. They all know they are not to argue or protest if either my husband or I decide to give one of them a spanking. They may groan and moan when told out of the blue that they are to be spanked, no penalty for that, but they then are to do what we tell them to do and take the spanking promised. Tom, since he is gone all day all week, will usually do this with at least one of the kids on any given weekend, usually with Annie or Debbie since I tend to spank Jimmy more than he does.

Q. Do your kids friends know they are spanked?
We have warned the kids repeatedly to be very careful about saying anything about their spankings to anyone--and in particular, to be careful about telling other kids their age.
So the answer, only a very few kids that they know are aware that they get spanked, and we are only aware of those that the parents, a few close friends from the church, have told us about (so, very few).

Q.Do you have spanking privileges for any friends visiting?
No, this has not come up so far with our kids.

Q. if you have company and have to spank, is it really
close family and friends who can witness?
Again, because of my husband's situation, we have avoided spanking discussions with others in general, and we have not spanked any of our kids when other people were visiting.

Q. were you parents spanked as kids and if so do your kids
enjoy hearing tales of your mischief?
My mother was spanked growing up, not sure about my father. Don't recall if it was ever mentioned. Mother did spank me, but not as often as she probably should have. (I hated getting grounded, hated having any privileges taken away, hated losing the chance to go to some event or entertainment because I was being punished.) My spankings were over my mother's lap, bare bottomed and they were long and hard when she did spank. My husband was strapped by his father maybe a couple of times a year when younger, and a couple of times during high school. Other punishments were used instead of spanking in his home.

Q. What do you think is the greatest benefit to this type
of discipline?
I have become a firm believer in corporal punishment for our children. I think it brings a closeness and bonding between parent and child that is often missing in families that don't use spankings regularly and WITH LOVE. The nudity that we use with spankings, and the opportunity spankings give our kids to have real cathartic crying (washing away all the built ups "bad feelings" and guilt, and tensions that build up with kids), we feel, allows our children to develop a physical closeness with us that is unusual and rewarding.
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Q. What hobbies do your kids and you have, and you as a
>family?
We all like sports, playing them actively and watching them also--baseball, football, basketball (we all shoot hoops and play games with our basketball hoop at the side of our garage), and my husband and I and Annie are tennis players. Jimmy plays sports with friends and loves to run and bike--all three of our kids love to bike and the older two bike all over our small town). The three kids have a number of electronic games they play, that are Greek to Tom and I, but it gives them a lot of pleasure.
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Q. What is something non spanking related you'd like help
>and advise with?
If you mean with our kids, we pretty well cover the whole enchilada with them. If you mean on this site, we both have our hands full as it is--even just keeping up with posts on here can be hard for me at times.
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Q. Did the father of your kids or husbands know you were
spanked as a kid when you met?
I'm sure that soon after we met that information was exchanged. I know I was very pleased to find that Tom agreed with me that corporal punishment should be used with growing children. Even when our kids were still pre-school I used to spank them fairly often and Tom was very supportive. He liked it when I would include him in the discipline routine by asking him to spank one or the other, or sometimes all, when he came home from work or on a weekend.

Q. DO you practice modest dress when raising your kids, if so what does that mean for you?
Actually, the answer would be no, we are not among the parents who rigidly police the dress of our kids. This applies mostly to the girls, maybe exclusively to the girls (I can't think of a situation when the way Jimmy dresses would be immodest.) Our three go to what is a good public school because this is a mostly expensive small town and there is no convenient private school here for them to attend. So they dress as the other students of their age dress, and that includes wearing some relatively short skirts for example that many old-fashioned conservative religious folk would possibly find objectionable--but which all or most of their schoolmates are wearing as well. As I mentioned in a post, I used to have to be careful to have the girls wear slacks or long shorts to school to be sure that their red spanked thighs were not on display, but now that both Annie and Debbie are a bit older, they like to wear flesh-colored pantyhose, which I allow, and that allows them to wear the skirts they both like without putting spanked areas on display. The school they go to basically leaves dress up to the parents and we have not had any problems about that.
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Q. If your child used the Lord's name in vein what would
>the punishment be?
A. Definitely a spanking.
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Q. Does your church have messages or Sunday school lessons
on obedience and discipline? how do the kids react to them?
Our church schedules regular one-hour "lessons" immediately after the regular services on Sunday which all three or ours attend and enjoy and have never complained about, and I suspect benefits them in many ways. Jimmy loves those lessons because, Annette, the beautiful wife of the parson. also attends and sometimes conducts those lessons. While the kids are at those lessons, the parents all have coffee or tea and snacks, and a lively social hour or so, in the church meeting hall, which is right next to the church itself. Lessons are downstairs, social hour for adults is on ground floor.

That seems to answer all of the questions you posed, Sweet Kristina, so I will close and wish you and others on this lovely forum love and blessings. Cath

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