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Subject: Re: Don't be silly, she's just a little girl! Author: Sean [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 14:47:16 11/15/25 Sat Author Host/IP: 148.252.158.27 In reply to: Anna 's message, "Re: Don't be silly, she's just a little girl!" on 14:11:24 11/15/25 Sat >>Well, I have managed to use both my first and middle >>name on this forum. I will probably stick with Burton >>or Burt going forward. >> >>After finding this forum and posting the tomboy >>thread, I started thinking about similar situations I >>might have experienced or heard about. This one was >>told to me by my wife years ago. >> >>When she was 9 or 10, she was across the street >>playing at a friend's house a girl of the same age. >>The family was beginning the packing process for a >>trip and the mom was scurrying about making >>preparations. The two girls were engrossed with >>playing Barbies. After a time, her friend asked if she >>wanted a popsicle. They then went looking for the >>girl's mother, hearing her voice coming from the older >>brothers room who was 14 or 15 at the time. The girls >>wandered in to the room to find the mother having the >>son try on the previous years swimsuits to see if they >>still fit. >> >>The boy who was naked at the time, exclaimed to his >>mother that the girls should leave. His mother's reply >>.. " oh, they are just little girls, it doesn't >>matter." The boy had to continue trying on bathing >>suits at the mothers insistence while the two girls >>stood there begging for popsicles. >> >>I thought about that and remembered being told the >>same thing by my mother about my sister and her >>friends. >> >>So, my question is as a boy or young man, were you >>ever told this? Or for you ladies, were you ever the >>lucky little girls who were "far to young" to >>understand what you were seeing (lol) and allowed to >>stick around? > > >The "don't be silly, she's just a little girl" comment >brings to mind various experiences I had as a child. >Both with my brother (who is three years older than >me) and with my male cousin, who is four years older >than me, as well as with my classmate's brother (two >years older than us). They were both very shy and very >ashamed and complained to my mother and my aunt, but >their answer was always "don't be silly, she's just a >little girl". >And while this was true when I was 5 or 6 years old, >and I have very vague memories of those episodes (my >brother and cousin recalled them years later, when one >evening at dinner, all three of us with our respective >spouses, we talked about childhood nudity…), on the >other hand, I do have very clear memories of when I >was 9 or 10 or 11. >I assure you, the phrase "don't be silly, they are >just little girls, they don't notice these things" is >not true! We notice them! At least after the age of >7/8… >This post could also be under "The Double Standard" >but I published it here because this sentence has >remained imprinted in my mind (and especially in the >minds of my brother and cousin… lol… ). I would love to chat as well www.chatcrypt.com Put your name. Put "just" in the bottom boxes [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> Subject: Re: Don't be silly, she's just a little girl! Author: Burton [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:18:19 11/15/25 Sat Author Host/IP: 99.20.103.210 >>>Well, I have managed to use both my first and middle >>>name on this forum. I will probably stick with Burton >>>or Burt going forward. >>> >>>After finding this forum and posting the tomboy >>>thread, I started thinking about similar situations I >>>might have experienced or heard about. This one was >>>told to me by my wife years ago. >>> >>>When she was 9 or 10, she was across the street >>>playing at a friend's house a girl of the same age. >>>The family was beginning the packing process for a >>>trip and the mom was scurrying about making >>>preparations. The two girls were engrossed with >>>playing Barbies. After a time, her friend asked if >she >>>wanted a popsicle. They then went looking for the >>>girl's mother, hearing her voice coming from the >older >>>brothers room who was 14 or 15 at the time. The girls >>>wandered in to the room to find the mother having the >>>son try on the previous years swimsuits to see if >they >>>still fit. >>> >>>The boy who was naked at the time, exclaimed to his >>>mother that the girls should leave. His mother's >reply >>>.. " oh, they are just little girls, it doesn't >>>matter." The boy had to continue trying on bathing >>>suits at the mothers insistence while the two girls >>>stood there begging for popsicles. >>> >>>I thought about that and remembered being told the >>>same thing by my mother about my sister and her >>>friends. >>> >>>So, my question is as a boy or young man, were you >>>ever told this? Or for you ladies, were you ever the >>>lucky little girls who were "far to young" to >>>understand what you were seeing (lol) and allowed to >>>stick around? >> >> >>The "don't be silly, she's just a little girl" comment >>brings to mind various experiences I had as a child. >>Both with my brother (who is three years older than >>me) and with my male cousin, who is four years older >>than me, as well as with my classmate's brother (two >>years older than us). They were both very shy and very >>ashamed and complained to my mother and my aunt, but >>their answer was always "don't be silly, she's just a >>little girl". >>And while this was true when I was 5 or 6 years old, >>and I have very vague memories of those episodes (my >>brother and cousin recalled them years later, when one >>evening at dinner, all three of us with our respective >>spouses, we talked about childhood nudity…), on the >>other hand, I do have very clear memories of when I >>was 9 or 10 or 11. >>I assure you, the phrase "don't be silly, they are >>just little girls, they don't notice these things" is >>not true! We notice them! At least after the age of >>7/8… >>This post could also be under "The Double Standard" >>but I published it here because this sentence has >>remained imprinted in my mind (and especially in the >>minds of my brother and cousin… lol… ). > >I would love to chat as well > >www.chatcrypt.com > >Put your name. Put "just" in the bottom boxes So, for little girls we have "don't be silly, she is just a little girl". For older girls and young women we have, "she is going to be a mother some day and needs to learn". But we have'nt discussed the mantra of adult women and beyond, "please, I changed your diapers. You haven't got anything I haven't seen before". Or, if they had not personally changed your diaper, we have to hear about all the brothers/sons they have and they have seen it all before". We have all had this one thrown at us before, lol! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]