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Date Posted: 00:12:39 03/24/26 Tue In reply to: Sarah 's message, "To Sonya" on 21:12:58 03/23/26 Mon Thank Goodness I copied what I was responding with i hit wrong button to approve your post. did u happen to save it? I did read it though so here's my response Thanks so much a lovely read, this was just last year, which makes it clear to me hon that he does still need discipline likely more often than he currently gets it, like wonder how many things our boys get up to when we arent around, its not like when we were kids and HAD to stay out of the house to play all day with no supervision till we heard our names called lol From what I have heard like all your kids Brian is a very good boy, but he is a boy they get into a different more physical kind of behavior lol girls well can be sneakier about it .. of course I neeeeever was I was a good kid alllways Both boys are lucky to have you one as a surrogate mom, a second mom more like, you didnt think twice you reacted like he was your own son, because he was in the same amount of danger. And a good friend, I am sure after that incident she was a bit firmer with him overall, I woulda been livid too, and yes you yelled and such but you were really worried about them, and we should try not to raise our voice but sometimes it happens! Ive spoken to a friends boys 10 and 11 before about discipline and spankings, they were quite smart in their answers, my son was struggling with me being stricter than I had been, so we were over and I asked the boys about how they felt their mommy spankin so much (was like 2-3 a week she tried to be consistent even finding areas they did well lin just needed some more improvement for example) But they said it means she loves them and dont want them get in trouble. Oldest said I dont wanna lose my video game.. LOL hed choose a spankin over that any day, heaven forbid a boy without video games for a week My son and hers, well them being in same boat with how often we moms discipline, theyve been able to bond over it, same with other sons of friends closer to Matthew's age. The spanking was well deserved he could have got hhurt my debris or fell in the creek when it was likely higher water levels. I have caught my son and one of his friends climbing way too high on this tree in my yard. I was doing dishes I could see them out the window but when I looked up I saw my son way up there and his buddy cheering him to go higher This was few months back near start of school year. I firmly said young man get down here right now! you both could get really hurt! I led both inside, my son being spank-marched. When I had Matthew in his undies at the couch ready to have a lecture/talk, I first called Billy's mother, she said he should get whatever my son would and she told him on phone how she was disappointed and to do as told as consequence so both boys had undies and pants off, and over lap for hand and wooden spoon was a serious issue, after corner they both apologized and all was good. Billy's mother looked at his bottom after and decided he had enough to learn his lesson Boys do this silly dangerous stuff its just in their nature, how God made em Wouldnt change it but also wouldnt change the level of strictness and balance of love care and understanding either though, its and I mean it, made things soo much better, easier, when things are able to run smoother theres more time available to do the fun family things together If you were the lil bit stricter with Brian hes not going to like hate you :P or see you as any less of a wonderful mommy than he does now, on a subconscious level he will be even closer to you because they need structure rules and discipline all kids do, just maybe dont know it all the time lol But boys benefit from it on a more powerful level than girls do, so for most boys they dont see that stronger structure as anything less than mom caring and loving them even if they may break the rules as they cant help themselves sometimes :) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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| Re: Sonya my response *accidentally deleted ur post | Sonya OOOPS | 00:42:02 03/24/26 Tue |
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