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Date Posted: 23:59:25 05/13/02 Mon
Author: Megan Schnuck
Subject: In love and confused

Hi, I am a 21 yr old mother of 2 who is going through a divorce. The divorce is not my problem. I am 100% over my husband and knew it was over long before the divorce. My problem is about my boyfriend.

I met my boyfriend online about 2 months ago. He was very honest and upfront with me from the beginning. I just never thought it'd come to us being in love.

He is married and has 2 kids. His marriage is also over. He's said that and his wife has said that. They live together right now because he's devoted to his kids and when his wife moved out she took the kids with her. He figured this would be an easy solution but it ended up being the worst thing he's ever done. His wife knows about me although we deny being in love so she doesn't use it against him in court. His family all know about me. We've gotten together 2 previous times (him coming here). This Friday i'm planning a trip to his house. I have a 13 hr drive with my two kids. People are telling me i'm crazy for driving all that way with my kids I just have to see him again.

His wife refuses to leave again and so does my b/f. They both claim it's their house. My b/f said that he is going to talk to a lawyer either today or tomorrow and make it so she has to leave. The funny thing is I believe him totally. No doubts about what he's told me. He has never lied to me about anything so I have no reasons not to trust him. We talk on the phone while his wife is home so I know what they're home life is like. She knows that the 2 weekends he came up that he was coming to see me.

My b/f and me are planning on living together (in his house) as soon as she's out. We want to be a family (both of us). I know how much he loves me. I broke it off with him a few weeks ago and he wouldn't give up. He kept telling me I loved him and no one would be able to make me as happy as he does. He was right and I got back together with him.

I don't really know what I need advice on I guess I was just looking for someone to give me support or something like that. My family supports any decission I make and so does my friend. My parents only concern is me driving 13 hrs with 2 kids alone. I don't blame them i'm scared to. Like I said before I have to see him again I miss him terribly.

I know some of you are thinking that if he'd cheat on his wife he'd do the same to me. That is also not true. We're on the phone as much as possible. If we're not on the phone we're online together or he's at work or sleeping other than that we're on the phone. I know there is no way he'd be able to cheat on me. He is one of those guys that come along once in a lifetime.

Some of you are also thinking that he'd never truly leave his wife for me. I know that to is not true. Him and his wife haven't been a wife and husband for over a year now so it was over before he even met me. I'm not nieve and i've been through hell with my husband to where i'm very cautious with my feelings. I'd never get involved with a man I thought would hurt me. He's done everything possible to make it easier on me. Everyone says they can tell he loves me more than he's ever loved anyone, and that I make him happier than they've seen him ever. His cousin is excited to meet me as is his brother and parents. The only concern I have is that his wife won't be gone when I get there Friday. I told him I won't come if she's still there. That is not fair to either of us. Well I think i've hogged the screen enough. I guess i'm just looking for someone to tell me to stick with it. To follow my heart. Like I said not sure what i'm looking for....

In love and confused

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