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Date Posted: 15:35:54 01/31/04 Sat
Author: dave
Author Host/IP: 192.62.201.170
Subject: ugly and hopeless

I have been living with chronic depression for 20 yrs. Due to job instability/layoffs I have never been able to stay on an antidepressant med. for long term (no job=no insurance). Unfortunately, God did not bless me with even average looks. I’m ugly, and despite what good-intentioned family may tell me, I know that I am. I have a recessed/weak chin, darkness around my eyes, a wrinkled forehead, ugly features, etc. How else do you explain this: I have countless times tried to meet women through personals (internet and other). I initially have great, long conversations with them – we really seem to connect. Then, when I send them a pic of me, everything changes. They are no longer interested. I get no response back or a polite “thanks but no thanks” This can only possibly be an appearance issue. (and yes, I’m smiling in the pic and it’s not dark/distorted, etc.). It hurts because I really would like to be in a loving relationship. This rejection has happened to me HUNDREDS of times…How can I not be discouraged?! It’s very disheartening. Things are only getting worse as I’m starting to lose my hair – the only good thing I had going for me! I walk around feeling like I have a dreadful contagious disease, all because my appearance is ugly. I must be the most rejected man in America! It has shattered my faith in people and brought me to wish I could just die since I have no place in this superficial world.

I also don’t have a good career or money for plastic surgery to improve my looks. Being in my mid-30s with no prospects of ever getting married or in a serious relationship, my depression is getting worse every day. I think I could deal with not having a great career if I had someone special in my life. The loneliness really hurts, especially when the few friends I have and other people I notice my age are all married or in serious relationships. Sorry for this rant; I guess I just needed to vent. I wonder if anyone else here has had massive amounts of rejection due to looks?

Dave

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