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Date Posted: 15:24:18 05/30/04 Sun
Author: Charlotte
Author Host/IP: 84.66.8.160
Subject: Re: Reaching out
In reply to: Maria 's message, "Reaching out" on 16:31:03 04/17/04 Sat

Hi there

I self harm, though haven't for a few months now...the new medication I am on seems to be helping. I still get the thoughts to self-harm but somehow things aren't so desperate.

I just wanted to share with you something that helped me recently when I did want to self harm. Someone said to me that I have to see self harming as a coping strategy. Ok, it's not a very good one, but it's one that in the past has worked for me. One day I will have other strategy's that mean I will not need to use this one.

If you feel that you need to self-harm (I use the term 'need' loosely) then accept that is what you are going to do and at that moment in time that is all you can do to get yourself through that moment. Don't feel guilty or ashamed about it. Accept responsibility for it, do it and move on.

At certain times it's whatever gets us through, just understand that there are better and safer ways of coping and when you feel up to it, that's the time to seek those out. But don't beat yourself up about it, things are hard enough without adding to it.

Hope this helps, mail me if you want to chat
Take care
Charlotte

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  • Re: Reaching out -- Princess_Rosepetal, 06:07:27 04/04/05 Mon
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