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Subject: Having Kids

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Kim Wood

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Date Posted: 06:24:58 11/10/04 Wed

Kelly,
My husband and I went through three years to fertility treatetments, spent thousdands of dollars, only to find out that we could never concieve a baby. I then had to have a historectomy, which ended our chances of ever having a baby. We were heartbroken, and felt that our fertility Doctor should have known about my condition. I see a lot of people have sent email about what to take, what not to take and such. I have just a couple pieces of advise. 1. They next person that tells you to relax, and you will get pregnant, SLAP THEM and SLAP THEM HARD. 2. Develop a sense of humor. It will keep you from going insane. I use to have to go through test after test and procedure after procedure. I told my husband that after all that if I did get pregnant I could give birth in TIme Square and it would not bother me. My husband joked about being replaced by "Tupperware" because of all the samples he had to provide. And Don't even get me started on sperm counting!
When we found out that we could not have kids we were devestated. We spent three days crying about it, and holding each other. Remember your husband will feel just a helpless as you do. He is going through it too! My husband wouldn't come around me during the treatments unless he was aremed with GUmmy Bears and Haggen Daz icecream. But he was there through it all. After my surgery we decided to check into adoption. We could not afford private adoption (Becuase we spent almost every last dime on fertlity treatments) so we went through CPS. On November 20th my husband and I will celebrate our second year as parents. Last November we adopted Twins, a boy and girl, who were 15, and they are the joy of our lives. Although I still grieve for the child I couldn't have, I just wanted to let you know that I understand what you are going through. Good luck. I love the Mommie quiz. It goes a little overboard, but it is funny.

Kim and Donnie Wood

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