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Subject: infertility/adoption

Author:
Shelly Rogers

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Date Posted: 16:43:15 07/19/04 Mon

Kellie:

I have been listening to the show for quite some time and have wanted to write to you about infertility but have held off. Today I heard you talking about a little baby girl from China that was placed for adoption and decided that today was the day that I would write to you. I am the mother of 2 incredibly beautiful children, Brett and Kylie, both of whom were adopted through the Gladney Center in Fort Worth. Prior to becoming a family, my husband, Neal and I, struggled with infertility for 5 years. I have heard you discuss the passing months of trying to get pregnant and I just want to assure you that you are not alone in your frustration and/or fear about not getting pregnant. Month after month it is necessary to "gear up" for what was once done for nothing but pleasure (not that it is not pleasurable but "it" serves another purpose these days!) The month seems extremely long when waiting to see if you possibly managed to conceive.....and when you haven't the cycle repeats itself. I likened infertility to the movie Groundhog Day - same thing, month after month. More importantly than sharing your infertility frustration I wanted to share something with you that really changed my life during our struggle with infertility. Neal and I discussed adoption and knew that we were both completely open to it - the mere fact that I knew I would be a mother someday, someway set me free. I allowed myself to dream about the nursery, discuss names, etc. without reigning myself back in. The amazing thing was that as soon as Neal and I began the adoption process doors and windows flew open for us - we experienced nothing but JOY and through 2 adoptions not one single glitch. I know that in many ways we are the exception to the rule but Kellie know that God already has your family planned. Your son/daughter is waiting for the right time and whether it is through conception or adoption, you will find each other. I firmly believe with all of my heart and soul, Neal and I waited for Brett and Kylie and our family is complete.

Sorry this email is like a saga, but I didn't know where else to write to you. I look forward to hearing your updates and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Shelly Rogers

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