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Date Posted: 15:00:00 12/05/01 Wed
Author: Rae
Subject: Re: me too
In reply to: b-butterfly 's message, "Re: me too" on 20:18:01 08/02/01 Thu

>Just to say your message really touched me. I also
>settle for less but in a different way. I seem to
>allow people to take advantage of me because I believe
>i am unworthy. I have got to a point where I know I
>deserve better. It is with this knowledge I know I
>can make a change. Only I can make things better and
>the same applies to you. If you want a friend you can
>always email me. As for sex if you aint getting
>anything out of it(orgasm, foreplay) what's the point.
>Sex is goood when your with some one you love or care
>deeply for. >
>
>for so long i too settled for less. and actually, i
>>still do. writing this is sort of a therapy for me. i
>>am 24, weigh 255 pounds and am 5'2. i dont get a lot
>>of offers for dates. and when i do, of course they
>>only want to use me. and (as i write this with tears
>>rolling down) i usually let them. and maybe some of
>>you know the routine- they only call just to have
>>their way with me. and i let them. its the only way i
>>get attention. and usually i feel so low and so dirty
>>afterwards. but it seems to be a repeated cycle. how
>>does one get to the point that everyone spoke about?
>>of feeling love for me?

I just wanted to reply to this message. My name is Rae. Sometimes, we want to feel wanted. But everytime we sleep with another, we loose a part of us. We feel that, the moment we are together with that man, we feel loved and secure. Then when it's over, we realize that he doesn't care. He just gets up, or calls his boys, and leave you there on the bed by yourself. I don't think God has intended for us to feel this way. We weren't put on this earth to give sexual pleasure to men. I'm 245 lbs, 5'8 and I'm a size 18/20. I know how it feels to be used by men. Sometimes, we know in our hearts that this person is so wrong. Then, when you see that guy in public, he acts like he doesn't know you or he ignores you like nothing has happened. I don't think God wanted woman to feel this way. We have to really study these men before we sleep with them. I know temptation comes and we just want to feel pleasure. But we have to be ready for the consequences after the pleasure. Girl, don't sell yourself short. God has made man and created woman. We are the special ones. He created us and shaped us. Took time to make us especially. There is a man out there for you that have been made just for you and I. Keep the faith.

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Re: me too -- Robin, 22:04:21 09/13/02 Fri
- I disagree -- Damita Jo, 17:09:02 09/27/04 Mon