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Date Posted: 19:10:08 01/02/03 Thu
Author: R. Scott
Subject: Married Women

I would like to speak to the married women out there. I am a single woman with no children (age 42). I would have married if the right man had come along (not to say that he is not on the way). I have met many "Christians" in my Christian walk and I have had some negative experiences, I hate to say, with Married Christian women.

I have experienced being slighted by these women simply because of my marital status. One woman had the audacity to come to work and tell me that her husband said that I would not stand a chance at finding a husband at my age (at the time I was in my early 30's!). Every time I saw this woman, she had something negative to say about my marital status.

I have also had negative experiences with a married woman who would continuously make plans to do things (go shopping, out to eat etc.) but cancel those plans at the last minute stating that her first obligation was to her husband and family (not that anyone expected otherwise from her....just a lil common courtesy not to waste my time. It's called manners).

The above is just an example of things I have encountered with married women and in speaking to other single women, I have learned that they too have come across such ludicrous behavior. Oh! I could I forget to mention the married women, when given a surprise birthday luncheon stated in conversation, "watch single women, they will take your husband."

I am writing this to bring attention to a problem in what should be a peaceful, Christian relationship among God's people is anything but. Married women and single women have much to work on in how they relate to each other. Under it all, I surmise? A false sense of worth (being married makes me special and gives me status in society). Under that? Putting single women down make married women feel better about their choice (or does it?). No where in the Bible does it say that you are worthy because you are married. In fact, Paul spoke out and told the people that it is better to be single if you can handle it, because it gives you more time for the the things of God.

If you are married, and you are acting in a manner that has just been described above, you need to press closer to God, because your heart is not right. Not all women find your husband of interest or would think of compromising their relationship with God for a piece of flesh that you think belongs to you (actually he belongs to God and can be removed from your life at any time). My God, I have one dear married friend who lives in one city while her husband lives in another and she often makes comments about their marriage as though it is "normal". What happened? She did not want to be single and take on the harshness that other women dish out, so she settled for the man's last name even if he is not around. All about status and acceptance. I thank God for his acceptance and pray that some of you women will grow from this message.

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