| Subject: Re: Is it good to go out with multiples |
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Date Posted: 21:08:47 05/20/07 Sun
In reply to:
Monomendai
's message, "Is it good to go out with multiples" on 17:55:15 05/18/07 Fri
Monomendai, there is an Engan Expression.."If you kill two cuscus (Mui and Kep) and try to remove their hair at the same time, surely you are bound to make a mistake" This is because, people are careful not to destroy their fur. A cuscus fur in Enga is more precious and to catch a cuscus needs skill of a great hunter.
Apply the same analogy, if your heart is divided between two man when you are starting off a relationship, then you would not really come to grasp of your own emotions and feelings for one person. Sometimes people have this mentality, shop around and find the best, inorder to do that you have to have several boys and girls. I found out that, that never works relationships, it might work in a shopping sense where you get the best quality with the best price.
Relationship are complicated, and cant be compared to a shopping trip. You are dealing with two people who are raised up differently in different ways, from different backgroup, different cultures etc. So you see, if you want to know someone so well before you tie the knot, you got to keep your feelins and emotions for one person. Sure, it is like taking a gamble, because you dont know what your partner is doing at your back, but when you let suspicions enter a relationship, then it becomes dangerous. The sooner the better you sit down with your partner and clear all suspicions.
I have seen people who have several relationships at the sametime find it hard to choose between people and they go on living a double life, trying to impress severl girls or boys at the same time. I found this sort of people dont settle down in real life, even after marriage, they will continue to play it double, behind the back of their partners. Try concentrate on one, and give him that you are after a while when you know the kind of person you are dealing with.
I take relationships slowly. I dont rush into things, take time and get to know the person. Dont give into advances quickly. Dont show him who you are from the beggining. Try to become a bit un-predictable so that you dont become vulnerable and fall prey to another player. Take it easy and sometimes get at his nerves and see how he takes you. try some mood changes on him. If he really loves you, you will see that he will always try to make sure you are his gurl. After you know that he is all yours, then give yourself to him completely (not sexually), but your love for him.
This sort of approach is hard for those who have relationships with two different people. They are unsettled people, and they will never settle down in real life.
Good Luck
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