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Subject: Re: viewings

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Dreemdanser

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Date Posted: 13:56:00 05/07/07 Mon
In reply to: Ariana 's message, "Re: Your thoughts?" on 08:53:25 04/30/07 Mon

wow, yeah.

I get why the practice exists so that people can face the death and grasp the fact that the person is dead. But personally I really really am uncomfortable with it. When someone I love dies I think I will want to see and kiss and say goodbye to the person's body...but not all fixed up and prettied up...and alone. But if you're not really intimate with someone it seems weird and unnecessary. I guess the more morern practice of having a photo of the deceased displayed is better but it was still really aweful and contradictory when my daughter and i had to attend a classmate of her's funeral after the boy had committed suicide. Here was this humongous photo of him smiling. I mean it was absolutely horrible to see that huge smiling photo under the circumstances. Yes, everyone wanted to remember him the way he had SEEMED but obviously even the photo wasn't really how he was!

I guess I would want a photo thing and I want to be cremated so as to save the earth from more coffins and cemeteries. Mostly, I'd want people to share stories about my life verbally, about what they remembered rather than focusing on how I looked. When a death is sudden or especially if it is violent there doesn't seem to be any secular ceremony or ritual that addresses the needs of the people left behind. Seems like and area in our culture that is really in need of overhaul. Lots of religions have various traditions and ceremonies but again most are pretty stilted. Wow...I really love wicca.

pondering,
Dreemy

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: viewings	SapphireMist	22:13:11 05/13/07 Sun
Re: viewings -- Crystal, 21:58:00 07/16/07 Mon