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Subject: Re: Am I wrong??

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Dreemdanser

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Date Posted: 22:21:03 06/20/08 Fri
In reply to: Breezy 's message, "Am I wrong??" on 10:08:07 06/16/08 Mon

First of all...((((hug))))

I am sorry you are going through this.
As to being right or wrong...the answer is neither. Your feelings are your own and no one has a right to tell you how to feel or what choices to make for yourself and your life.
That said....I think that it is not necessary to forgive your mom for her sake. However i have found that holding on to things that I am bitter or angry about hurts me. For me it is better for me to find a way to get past it and move on whether I do anything in regards to communicating with the offender or not. In fact sometimes it just plain isn't safe in one way or another to have contact with someone who has done us harm. But you can still let it go and you can still release the negative feelings on your own. So for your own karmic energy and aura and even physical health if you can find a way to release the negative feelings against your mom this will be a positive thing to do for yourself. it is not necessary to have any contact with her or to go see her or do anything esle that you do not want to do. You could try asking yourself how you feel if you do go verses how you will feel if you do not. She will die. You will be the one still in this physical realm. It is about you and what you feel will be best for you. If you should feel it is best for you not to go your mother is reaping the seeds of her own choices in life. But for yourself whichever decision you make...try to be sure you are not making the choice out of revenge or hatred or to do harm. If the choice it to spare yourself from pain or harm then that will feel peaceful inside. But if you make the choice in order to get even then you will regret the choice and it will not feel good inside. I think you know what i am saying. No matter what you do it is about your own sense of peace and inner harmony. When you are acting from a pure heart then you need have no worries.
i will never meet my father. I do not remember him. But i learned he abused my half sister. Evidently i was spared, she was not. So I will not meet him, conact him or ever let him into my life. I do not hate him or hold on to any negative emotion towards him. I have been able to release it and not hold on to it. But I would no sooner interact with him than i would any other toxic entity.

Love and light,
Dreemy

>Hey again, don't mean to only post negative messages,
>when I can sort my own mind out eventually I'm trying
>to get back into magick and those things since I found
>comfort in it before but after I moved everything
>seemed to fall apart. Anyways, right now its my mom.
>She sick and possibly dying and I'm so far away 2000
>miles pretty much and I feel guilty, she'd like me to
>come home but I'm not willing to do it. Part of me
>wants to but another part doesn't. I love her but I
>have anger and bitterness for what she put me through
>growing up that she won't even take responsibility
>for, she just says her actions were all my dads
>fault. I don't see how neglecting me can be
>rationalized by my dad leaving her.
>
>I have feelings I won't even dare tell her because I
>know she wouldn't be able to handle it and I'll feel
>more guilty. Emotionaly I'm not willing to give more
>then I am now and am I wrong for that??

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Re: Am I wrong??	Crystal	15:50:24 06/22/08 Sun