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Date Posted: 20:44:42 06/17/07 Sun
In reply to:
Maurice
's message, "Re: Wife cheating ?" on 05:51:40 07/15/04 Thu
It's a good chance she's cheating. If she is you have to ask yourself can you actually "change" her into stopping ? The old saying is you can't "change" people. I do recommend you catch her though for your own piece of mind. Most have to see it and confirm it before they call it quits. Be prepared for her to go off on you for snooping on her even though she is in the wrong. This is super common for women to place the blaim on you when she's cheating. There's no reason to cheat no matter what short comings you have.Ways to check ? I've heard there's software out there you can install on your PC where you can read everything typed. Only do this if it's your PC as you don't want legal troubles with her. If she's using your PC to send emails, and IM's guarenteed she's either confessing and laughing it up with one of her girlfriends. One of her girlfriends I might add that is up to the same negative behavior, and two she probably is communicating with the other guy !
The other way is take a page out of a girls snoop hand book and wait til she jumps in the shower and go throuh her cell phone and find message, phone calls, emails, and picture history. Phones have all of this these days and its how I caught my ex cheating ! If she's living with you figure you're way about before confronting her so it's less volitile. If she's living at her own place and she's in the shower at her own place and you are going through her phone while sitting on the sofa, confront her right away. Reason being she will go off on you for going through her phone to offset her cheating. Nicely walk out the door and never come back. If you live in your own place never confront her there as it will be a NASTY fight possibly with her refusal to walk out the door ! Confronting her at her place allows you to leave if she get's load and arguementive. I almost guarentee you will find messages, photos, or evidence that is disturbing so brace yourself !
Last is if she goes to the bars or nite clubs with her girlfriends because most girls say they need girl time (this is BS, excuses to hit on other guys). Convince your sisters friend to go to this club and take a picture or two of your woman making out with some stranger.
Most affairs either start in three places
Work
nite club/bar
internet
Work usually happens because though your women is married she acts available and other guys think it's great they can hook up with your wife with no commitments !
This also happens due to when your wife is done working her 8-10hrs & she get's sucked into "happyhour" on fridays where co-workers drink, hang-out, and get stupid.
The other is she has to travel for business. I make it a rule never to get seriously entangled with a women that travels alot for work. It's almost a given no matter how professional they are something its bound to happen. It's like the old saying about motor cycles "it's not if you will crash it's when you will crash". This is the samething its not when you will hook up with a co-worker but when and matter of time.
Nite clubs/Bars - This is a common place where women find themselves meeting a new person. Normally their girlfriends say "hey we never go out just tell your man anything because we are going out"
Next they get into their car with just the girls hooting and hollar'ing how they're "single tonite" and "what happens at the club stays at the club". Mean while you are the trusting guy sitting at home or playing poker with your friends. This I might add goes for weekends to vegas, carribean, Mexico, Canada, Europe ETC.
Word of caution never trust a woman's description on what goes on in the club as 99% is BS to protect their rep and the rep of other women. Unless you have expirience going to the club week in and week out you won't know the real truth. Meaning if you just hit the club twice a year with your woman and that's it you aren't getting the real view. Reason being is if let's say you end up at a club with your woman and her friends and their BF's or husbands trust me the women will be on their top best behavior because they don't want to screw up the chance of them going out on their own !
What happens is your women hits the club, dozen of corny guys constantly try to talk to them, bump and grind with them, mack to them, etc. Then somewhere in the bunch there's one or two they find smoking hot and can't turn down. If they don't go all the way they might just end up making out and rubbing on each other which is bad enough. But, if she is willing to do this she will give her number and or take is. This is where the drama begins. She will probably tell this guy she has a man and you are a dick, etc, etc, and they will start their side relationship. This happens everyday !
I will say this any married women, or woman that has BF that goes to niteclubs without her man even on a infrequent basis has at least cheated on her mad to the degree of making out which is bad enough.
Here's another one - Bachelorette parties !
Do yourself a favor and Google Bachelorette party take off your Porn safety and click impages ! You will find pictures from real bachelorette parties and they have 1 thing in common. The sucking of the stripper man's bare unclean dick ! There's also pictures of strippers having sex with women in plain view of party goers. After talking to a few guys in the strip biz they explained this is a common every party thing ! Now do the same for bachelor party and you will find dumb guys drinking beer and that's it ! Not to say that guys don't get out of control on their bachelor partis but most female strippers you have to pay a arm and a leg to get a lap dance let alone anything else. They are all about doing the least amount of work for the most $$$. The male strippers..well just put yourself in their position. You get your dick sucked and fucked by multiple women. No one would have to twist your arm and pay you extra would they ? Exactly and that's what these guys are thinking.
Guarenteed if she's attended these type of parties she's done at least one bad thing you might be shocked about ! Let alone her own party, I would bet she actually had sex with the stripper. This is common as hell these days for the maid of honor and the wife to be to get some "condomless" sex from the stripper man ! talk to a male stipper and find out, you will be shocked !
Internet.... Chatting on line often leads to meeting someone offline. Like the club not all the guys chatting up women are ugly no bodies. Every now and a again they meet a good looking guy they can't say no to, and boom the affair begins !
No it's not everyone is different and it's all about trust BS.
Remember when you were a young teenager ? You might have been a great honest kid but did you alwayssssssss tell your parents the truth ? No ! Everyone is in the same boat. You might have lied so you could sneak to see a dirty movie, or drink beer at a friends, or hang out with your girlfriend when you shouldn't. This is the same. You're women might be all around nice person, church going and everything but might lie to you because every so often she does something underhanded. We all have this capiblity.
Words of advice. Once your single again carefully screen your women, and never date a women that travels for work, goes to happy hour, nite clubes, bachelorette parties, and chats for hours on end on the internet. Find someone that is your best friend ! This is hard to find but they are there. Though she has the capiblity to do wrong like us all if she's isn't envoled going to places she shouldn't it's unlikely she will be able to,or be in the frame of mind of, and wanting to cheat. If she doesn't ride a motor cycle she won't crash !
Also make sure you take certain days off from work in the year not matter what. That is if you have a job with vacation time. Make sure you take the day before and the day of Valentines day. This is the day at work other guys will be hitting on your wife. Show up to her work, take her to lunch. Get her some nice flowers on V day, doesn't have to be expensive Roses but something that looks very nice and impressive. What this does is will make your woman feel guilty about any negative thoughs she might have had about you, and will get the "good girls, and old ladies" at her work to comment how much of a gentleman you are. The thing is when a affair starts at work no one there knows you your woman can tell everyone you are a asswhole so she doesn't seem wrong for her actions. Now they don't know it's the truth and if she's a good actress you're screwed in them trying to talk sense into her. At every workplace you wife has friends that are Hoe's and friends that are good girls. You can't do anything about the Hoe's but the key is to impress the good girls and old ladies. Those will be the ones that will be her voice of reason when some guy is hitting on her. It's not a guarentee but a big help. Do this on her Bday as well. Don't be a corn ball or anything. Being a bad boy works great but being to much of one can put you in the dog house especially if some guys pays attention to your woman on V day and you don't ! Don't break yourself with diamonds and crap esp. if you don't have the $$$. Nice flowers, lunch, and your time will due nicely !
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