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Date Posted: 10:13:16 03/10/05 Thu
Author: Mike K.
Subject: Re: Subject changed
In reply to: Joe 's message, "Subject changed" on 08:42:32 03/10/05 Thu

They put up with no misbehavior in class and dealt with it quickly and sternly so they could get back to making you work hard and learning. But you knew that their first priority was to teach you something and that behind the stern exterior was a caring heart, which showed itself if you ever met them outside of school.

Hm, now that you mention it.
My school days are so long since past and I don't have children yet.
Maybe I forget to draw the line between adults and children where it needs to be drawn. One can not reasonably expect children to "behave like an adult". However, in childhood, the cornerstones for maturity are already laid: if they aren't forced to "grow up" when they're young, they maybe never will.
That, of course, includes using thorough reasoning in the process of deciding whether to follow a course of action or not.
"Bear with the consequences of your actions" is probably the most important lesson a human being can learn, because when every action is taken in full knowledge that one will later be held accountible for that will prevent at least obvious misdeeds and openly wrong behaviour.
If a teacher can manage to get that lesson into the heads of their students, they've taught them far more than a full Algebra course, so to say.

So, back to Caitlin, I'd say:
if you let your students know what you expect them to do, and you let them know what expects them when they transgress, then you can always resort to "This was your choice, now you need to bear the consequences". Repeat it, and repeat it. It'll get into the heads of these students. Yes, you can and should let them know they did do something wrong, when you manage them to become mindful of the outcome of their actions, then I think the matter of "dis-/obedience" will be a background issue only.
The forefront issue will be to make them feel that you're the one who decides the consequences of their actions (like a governmental authority) and they're the ones who can choose their "reward" by acting accordingly.

That should settle it.
In Christ,
Mike K.

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