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Date Posted: 21:03:36 03/16/05 Wed
Subject: Part One - Constant Praise and Thankfulness
In reply to:
's message, "UBF Expects Great Return on Small Investment" on 20:58:06 03/16/05 Wed
First, the UBF leader expects to receive consistent praise and thankfulness from the recruit. At every testimony sharing, conference message, and prayer meeting the recruit will thank him for being his shepherd. The recruit will praise him for helping him grow from someone terrible and useless to God to someone who can be used by God. All new recruits who attend these meetings will hear this praise and thankfulness. The hope is that the newer recruits will be impressed by such praise and want to become more involved in UBF. Also, the new recruits will develop the habits of the others who praise and thank UBF leaders. If the recruit fails to praise and thank the UBF leader, he will rebuke him for unthankfulness.
Further, acts of kindness and generosity are one-sided. A couple of years ago, my chapter director’s wife was able to purchase tickets to a sporting event at a significant discount through her work. She purchased a ticket for about eight of us in UBF. More than one year later she used that to justify her love for me and that she cared about me. She said, “I would not have given you a ticket, if I did not care about you.” I was expected to hold onto this memory of being given a $3.00 ticket as an example of her great love and care for me. In addition, every time my chapter director’s wife brought some food to church, she demanded thanks and praise. I thanked her 99% of the time. But, the one or two times that I forgot to say thank you, I was rebuked for being unthankful.
Now, this is quite a contrast to how my chapter director and his wife treated me. I cleaned the UBF bathroom for more than two years, made copies of the message and question sheets, mowed the lawn, took out the trash, shampooed the carpeting, and did not receive one thank you. This also contrasts with the scripture. Jesus said that God’s people should not expect to be thanked for their work. Instead, God’s people should regard themselves as unworthy servant only doing their duty. My chapter director and his wife did not regard themselves as unworthy servants. Instead, they constantly expected to be thanked.
From the point of view of UBF, they did not have any reason to thank me. I owed them those acts of service and much more. My chapter director’s attitude is that because he invested some time and money in me, I must always pay him back. From my chapter director’s point of view, I will never be able to pay him back. His 1:1 Bible studies, free dinners, transportation to UBF activities, and fellowship with me are considered great sacrifice for God’s mission. My acts of cleaning, copying, and taking out the trash are considered to be small, insufficient acts that I do because I am so grateful for the shepherd’s heart my chapter director had to raise me up from being a worthless, proud man to becoming a great servant of God.
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Part Two - Recruits as a Source of Boasting -- PECAS, 21:09:46 03/16/05 Wed