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Date Posted: 15:57:43 01/19/05 Wed
Author: Robert
Subject: Re: Need some serious advice
In reply to: Robert 's message, "Need some serious advice" on 17:32:07 01/17/05 Mon

Since posting here a couple of days ago I have received several E-Mails and posts from both former and current members of UBF. So I thought I would just make some blanket comments on the posts here. Many of you suggested that I just simply stay away from UBF, this is probably the best course of action, but I still need to talk to Sam Zun so speaking to him 1 to 1 might be a good idea, if he will talk to me frankly about what happened.
As far as finding a new church/ Christain friends that has been very difficult, I returned to my old church after leaving UBF but I can't really connect with the people there. To be honest I have problems trusting anyone in authority, and weird as it sounds, the more people are nice, happy, smiling the more I distrust them , after all UBf was like that AND we all know how that went for all of us. but really despite the pain and confusion this has left me in the worse part is that I can't talk to anyone about it. After all how do you explain to someone, especially in a mainstream church, that you were in an abusive church/cult that you thought was God's will for you to be there than get kicked out etc, without sounding a little bit crazy?! Any suggestions on how to get reacquainted with a church and its people after having endured what has happened in a place like UBF?

Robert

>About a year ago I wrote about my experience in UBf
>and How I was expelled, well recently I returned from
>my training in the Army and went to visit some omy old
>friends in UBF and was invited to attend this week's
>Sunday service and I was warmly greeted by everyone
>and pretty much they were were happy to see me and
>wanted me back, in particular Sam Zun who kicked me
>out in the first place. My question and position is
>this. I do not want to be back in that group, but I
>can't help but like I'm slowly getting sucked back in,
>so If I don't want back in. I'm still hurt over what
>happend to me, but what can I say or do That might
>allow me to state my position but not hurt them? Many
>of those people had nothing to do with me getting
>kicked out so I don't want to hurt/offend them? UBF
>can be very persuasive, so does anyone out there have
>any experience of leaving/ being expelled only later
>to have UBF try to bring you back in, especially maybe
>some of your old UBF friends, and what did you do
>about it? Thanks for your help, I going to need it.

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Replies:

able to fend for yourself -- realnickt@yahoo.com, 17:56:48 01/19/05 Wed
No worries.. -- Mike K., 04:50:32 01/20/05 Thu
Re: Need some serious advice -- Anonymous, 18:14:58 01/20/05 Thu