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Date Posted: 09:29:54 10/18/04 Mon
Author: Joe
Subject: criterion for UBF marriage
In reply to: hannah 's message, "Re: Questions for Hannah abaout marriage at ubf" on 18:22:44 10/14/04 Thu

>This is a scary thing to think about. I hear things
>like, "You need to grow and be a great woman of God so
>that you can marry a man of faith from Korea."

I've heard such things said. Does that mean most female 2ndgens in UBF USA become "great women of God" by the age of 20? Because that is when the push to get married seems to start.

Next, consider this spoken criterion for "marriageability" in UBF: "You have to become a great man/women of God so you that you can marry." It's ridiculous on its face. But you can also see that they want to use marriage as an incentive for greater UBF "mission" performance.

Finally, your choice is limited to a "[UBF] man of faith from Korea." As you wrote, they want you to bring a UBF missionary from Korea to your respective country through the immigration mechanism of fiancee or spouse sponsorship, and at the same time, lock you into a marriage with someone who is probably a lot more gung-ho about UBF than you are; two birds with one stone for UBF.

>But
>it's hard for me to say since I am only 18. Basically
>they want me to bring a missionary man to the
>ministry, and I don't want to. I don't know if it is
>different from the 'local recruits'.
>From what I've also heard, a lot of second gens take
>things into their own hands WITH approval from
>parents. I'm not sure if this is true though.

My experience and the experience of the vast majority of UBF 2ndgens (whether they admit it or not) tells me that even your parents' choice or approval takes a back seat to what their leaders in Korea and Chicago choose or think.

>I know for a fact that I don't/won't marry someone I
>haven't met or known for a while. Marriage by faith
>isn't ONLY if you don't see them. That's an arranged
>marriage, and can cause a lot of problems (or at least
>I think so). What are your thoughts on this.

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Re: criterion for UBF marriage -- John, 15:52:45 10/18/04 Mon
- Re: criterion for UBF marriage -- Chris, 02:00:37 10/19/04 Tue