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Subject: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Susan [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: Sunday, April 27, 2025, 03:16: pm So my sister and my husband and I had a meeting that just ended a little while ago. Shelly your intuition is more spot on than you realize. I am out of the enema giving responsibilities because It's not just an enema, It's ME. I have anxiety issues about rectal intervention and having someone know I'm on the toilet to have a bowel movement. Husband saw it when I did the enema the other night. My sister saw it when she came over yesterday. I took that enema because I wanted to face my fears that I knew I had from when my Doula made me have those enemas but it was awful and husband saw how fearful I was. I am not in a stable emotional state around my own toileting to be the one to give our children their enemas. Our daughter does not sass her dad like she does me so she will get her bulb enema when needed from him. So too will our son. I'm going to be required to get on the Metamucil dosage like our children and my sister will come over every other week and give one large plain water enema to them. She says like you do Shelly that I need that regular clean out enema too but I don't want to. It is just so scary for me. I still have that emotional reaction when I'm reminded of my enemas from my Doula. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Sunday, April 27, 2025, 03:43: pm Susan, You not the only parent. We have chatted with moms with the same story as yours in the past. Wanted to give their children enemas. The mom had anxiety as well about enemas. Glad you have help and support and your children are on the right track. Hope your son’s enema experience goes well. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Sunday, April 27, 2025, 06:29: pm Shelly, You think it’s a genetic thing between a parent and child? As for as the anxiety goes and bowel issues is what I am referring to. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Shelly [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Sunday, April 27, 2025, 03:59: pm AV it is so much a family thing with our two children. I know they must have picked up the anxiety I have around bowel movements and I am so ashamed and feel so guilty that they are anxious about their bowel movements my observing me. My sister is adamant that I have to set the example for our children that I am not anxious about my own bowel movements to have any credibility with requiring a daily bowel movement from them. She had me in tears. All three of us are going to drink a glass of orange juice together in the mornings with our metamucil. Our children will know that I'm required to have a bowel movement every evening just like them. She says I can give myself my scheduled clean out enema but if I won't she or husband will. She wants me to let her give me my enema first on clean out day so they know I do the same for my health as they have to. That is so scary for me! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: SUSAN: your son: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 04:32: am Susan, I know this is a strange topic to even discuss or bring up, but giving you a heads up on this. First, regarding your son’s enema. I would plan to allow him to empty his bladder before hand so he will not urinate like daughter did during the enema. But what I wanted to share was, and you may already know this, there is a possibility the enema may stimulate your son causing an erection. It’s normal, you can ask your nurse. He is at that hormone age anyway. I wouldn’t bring it up or even mention it, he will be embarrassed anyway when it happens. His little soldier is going to have a mind of its own during the ordeal especially with a goat milk enema and two rinses. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: SUSAN: your son: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 08:56: am Shelly I'm sorry I posted with your Name. This isn't my real name and I oopsed. We had a big fight with the Metamucil this morning but dad intervened. Her and I both drank our orange juice with Metamucil in it. We are just monitoring our son's bowel habits and then he will get his enema clean out probably Sunday. We haven't told him except that he is on a no flush rule. I think he suspects he is headed down the same enema road his sister and I are on now. My sister and I talked about my issues with my toilet secrecy again last night and I can not put my children on this path to healthy colon maintenance when they have observed during their potty training that I would lock the door and tell them they couldn't come in when I was on the toilet. I was not able to do that enema by myself the other day. Husband had to force me to take it. He said it was a long time coming because he knows how constipated I get and I do nothing about it. I just wait it out. I have no memory of it but my sister says I was very hard to potty train and I got suppositories in the very beginning so maybe some of my fear is rooted there even though I don't remember. She says if my children have to have the enemas so do I. She is adamant! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: SUSAN: your son: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 09:08: am Yeah AV he gets erections very easily. I think her was only five at bath night when we observed his first erection. They both have their hands in their pants at every opportunity and we just let them learn naturally as time goes on that it is something maybe a little personal and other people, even family aren't interested in watching them. Daughter still thinks that if she does it under a blanket that we don't know what she is doing. It's kind of fun to watch actually. She gets really great miniature expressions on her face as she is working herself. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: SUSAN: your son: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 12:16: pm Susan, Yes, touching themselves will be common. Your son through time may experience his first orgasm with his enemas. That is common as well. Having a goat milk enema and 2 rinses will surely wake his soldier up. Sorry if that is too personal. Just understand its common with enemas. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Kitten Paw [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 09:20: am Hi everybody! Gotta run. Got school. But hi Susan or whoever you are. Gonna get potty trained again huh? You must have failed it the first time. It's your fault your children have atrocious bowel habits 'cause your's are too. Your sister has your number doesn't she? She probably got to give you some of those suppositories. Ask her! And now she is going to give you your clean out enemas. She is excited to get to give her sister her enemas. Enjoy! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Shelly [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 01:50: pm No worries Susan, I think I've poster under someone else's name a couple of times. Just another indication of the anxiety and stress you are experiencing right now. I know this is tough for you as well as it will be for your two children but you all three will adjust and get into a routine and feel so much better. That was an intervention your husband and sister did with you. Accept their help and give your colon the care you are going to expect of your two children. Kudos to your husband "hello husband, pat on the back" and your sister for putting their foot down. You're going to be fine. You can do this. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Husband of not Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 01:58: pm Hey Shelly and all I'm at work but I've got just a minute. That was an intervention. (not) Susan had a very hard time with toilet training. Surprising she doesn't remember the suppositories but even admitted to you all that she will not have a bowel movement until she can get to a 'safe bathroom', usually her own. That all stops now. And she WILL have the clean out enema when Auntie is here for our two kid's enema. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 03:13: pm I feel naked and exposed before all of you. I am so ashamed of myself. I am terrified of enemas. I'm sure somewhere in my memory storage are the suppositories I got during toilet training. Yes Kitten Paw I did fail and I still feel like a failure to my kids. And I don't want the enemas just like you don't. It's just so emotional for me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 06:53: pm Our daughter unleashed a tirade on me. When she got home from school I told her she needed to try to get a bowel movement done some time before bedtime so she can avoid a mini enema from dad. And now I'm getting the silent treatment. I don't know which is worse. I'm used to being yelled at by her. The silent treatment is rare. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, April 28, 2025, 07:59: pm Susan, You stay the course. Doesn’t matter what she says or doesn’t say. If no bowel movement, an enema is in her future by dad. Stay strong and you and dad carry out the plan. If she doesn’t want an enema, eventually in the days to come, she will produce a bowel movement daily. Many on this forum have been where you are right now or have heard from others who have been there and stayed strong through the beginning struggles. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: It's not just an enema, It's ME Author: Shelly [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Tuesday, April 29, 2025, 09:58: am Hey Susan, You confided in us the issues you have yourself in a cry for help. You do subconsciously remember your difficulty with toilet training and getting put on your potty with a suppository in you and the enemas your Doula had to give you because she knew how impacted you get are still so fresh to this day. Most of us on here have memories, and mostly unpleasant, with being put on the toilet with an enema in us. I still do enemas trying to get the experience one more time of having to submit to my step mom for my enemas. It's your turn to submit for your enemas. You are older now, not a child anymore but you need the help. In a couple of months you will be feeling so much better you will be thankful for your husband and sister doing an intervention on you. The strong anxiety reactions you have now about enemas will wane in time and you can do your own enemas but now accept your sister's help. She is giving you and your children your clean out enemas because she cares so deeply about all of you. She knows there is still a part of that little girl in you that struggled with potty training. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]