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Pat
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Date Posted: 09/ 7/09 8:46pm
Hi, Shelly,
If you don't want an abortion, don't have one!
Don't keep your appointment. Don't go near the place.
He's trying to coerce you. It's not his decision what's best for you. Follow your heart. You don't owe it to him to go against your conscience and your God. Your baby was made in God's image, and God has a plan for his or her life. Your baby is depending on you for your protection. Please protect your baby.
Your boyfriend may THINK he's looking out after your best interests, but in reality, he's not. This is because he simply doesn't know what the repercussions would be for you. What if you are seriously hurt or killed? It could happen. Abortion is dangerous. Also, what if you lose interest in things like your graduate program? This could also happen. The chances of suicide are increased about 6 times after abortion. And a woman could lose her life by other violent means in the year after her abortion. These can include homicide and auto accident. Or a woman may start to abuse alcohol or drugs. Or she may resort to self-abuse such as cutting, or develop anorexia or bulimia.
It's not worth it. Women often tell me, "Not a day goes by that I don't think about my baby." Many women would agree that abortion was, for them, the worst choice. Since you are being coerced, you're not even a good candidate.
Can you go ahead with your plans for an education? Yes! I did it. I had four children when I graduated from college, three of them preschoolers. Your graduate school has no legal right to discriminate against you because of your pregnancy. If you run into any trouble with that, help IS available. And there is a college program at many colleges, which has been started by Feminists for Life. Check and see if there is one at your college, and if not, see if you can get one started. They provide a lot of different kinds of help.
Also, you can get help with the costs of birth. There are organizations that offer help in the form of medical care, for example. And they can help you with other resources. If you won't be working, the question of making too much money is moot. And there are programs, such as WIC, that can help, and I don't know about graduate school, but you may be able to get a PELL grant.
As for the environment, you can fix that. If there is chaos between you, work on it, or cut your ties to the father. You have months to resolve these issues.
Find out what your options are. Go here: pregnancycenters.org. They can also help you with issues like telling your family.
Remember, when you take the life of a child created in God's image, it's like attacking the image of God. You owe your actions to God, not your boyfriend. He has promised that He will not give us more than we can bear, but will give us a way out. It may not be obvious at first, but you will find out. It may be that you will be able to continue in your present course, or He may have another plan. For example, one woman who was considering abortion because she wanted to go to college came to me, and she had already placed her daughter for adoption. But to make a long story short, she decided to parent her son, and the adoptive mother of her daughter was very supportive. Now the two children play together. And she has become known throughout the country for her advocacy for birth mothers and has had articles published in a national magazine. She has a career as a portrait photographer. I think she did take some college courses. But obviously, she was able to adjust to the circumstances, and God has prospered her. One of the dangers of abortion is what it can do to your relationship with God. Please don't do it!
Please keep in touch. We care, and we'll be here for you, regardless. We'll be praying for you.
Hugs,
Pat
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