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Pat
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Date Posted: 05/20/10 5:11pm
Hi, Sam,
I am very glad that you feel able to release some thoughts here. I am sorry the board was down for so long.
Whether or not your ruin your baby's life is really up to you. If you cut your baby's life short, that will certainly ruin it. On the other hand, if you take heart, work hard, and use some creativity, you can make a good life for your baby. This doesn't have to interfere with you getting your RN. I know this because I was able to finish my degree after I had four children, three of them preschoolers. And if I can do it with four, you can do it with one.
Children naturally find joy and wonder in life. If you give your baby your love, your child will thrive and will be a blessing to you, even in imperfect circumstances. It is harmful for a child to live in the perfect world anyway, because the child will develop selfishness instead of character.
There are resources available to you. If you are in the United States, you can find an organization near you that will help you by going to this web site:
www.pregnancycenters.org
If you are not in the United States, I can give you a different link. There are organizations throughout most of the world.
Please think about what you could be pushed into doing. You are entering a profession that helps people and saves lives. The very first person in the world who is depending on you for your help and protection is your own child. The best possible way I can think of for getting off on the right foot is to help and protect your own baby. As a nurse, you will be expected to adhere to certain ethical standards, and one of those is not to harm anyone. Please think about this. As difficult as things seem, you deserve an answer you can live with, an answer that will leave you with a clear conscience and a unified mind and purpose to your life.
You will learn, in your studies, that a mother bonds with her baby in the first few days of her baby's life, although most women are not consciously aware of this bond until later. The baby communicates through hormonal messages, to his or her mother, by touching the Fallopian tube during the journey to the uterus. Once the baby establishes life in the uterus, he or she sends stem cells into the mother's bloodstream. These move to various parts of a mother's body, and some of them go to the mother's brain. This is another source of bonding. When either birth or abortion occur, many times more stem cells are released. Abortion causes pain to the baby, and this causes the body to manufacture chemicals. I don't see how the chemicals can avoid getting into the stem cells as well. The mother will have this reminder in her brain for the rest of her life. You can erase a baby from a mother's body, but never from her heart. Your dreams mean that on some level, you are aware that you have already bonded with your baby.
You will also learn, at some point, just how damaging it is for a mother to allow someone to assault her own body in order to get rid of the "problem".
It is possible that the organization near you can provide a free ultrasound. You deserve to meet your baby. Please check into it.
I am hoping and praying that you will be able to get past this panic and, by taking one day at a time, arrive at a point where you can experience the joy you deserve. We love both of you, and we will be here for you. Please stay and talk to us. And please take care, and keep both of you safe.
Hugs,
Pat
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