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Pat
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Date Posted: 06/19/09 10:46pm
Dear Kimi,
My heart goes out to you. I am crying with you. The way everyone treated you was very unfair!
Thank you so much for telling us your story. We will be here, and we will stick with you while you work through this.
I am very aware that many women don't know about the help available. We are doing our best to make sure women know. And people will badger a woman, and take advantage of her when she is feeling weak.
I'll give you some information about morning sickness for the future. One of the best ways to deal with it is probably ginger tea. A woman can sip it. Also a woman should make sure she's getting enough protein, if she can keep food down. A good doctor can recommend medication. Also, some women find eating a couple of crackers before getting out of bed to be helpful. Some people have said eating watermelon helps.
There is no reason at all that you cannot remain against abortion. There are many women who have experienced abortion who are, and who try to help other women.
Go to God and tell Him that you are sorry for the part you played in this situation. But don't take the blame for the things other people did to you. You were coerced. That isn't your fault. But pray. God has already paid for your abortion, and His forgiveness is readily available to you.
Take one day at a time. You might find it helpful to read the Psalms. God loves you and so do we. You might try to go back to the place where you went before, where they told you abortion is dangerous. They may have a program to help people in your position. I'm a little concerned, however, because you said that this place tried to convince you having a baby was hard. That wasn't helpful. So if you need to go someplace else, please let us know!
If you're not getting through to your family, confront them if you have to. They should have helped you instead of abandoning you. I don't know what the relationship between you and them is like. But this relationship can also be healed. As for the father, do whatever you think is best. If you think it will be better to break up with him, then go ahead. He put you at risk in the first place. Allow yourself to feel anger at how you were treated, and allow yourself to grieve. You might find it helpful to prepare a memorial for your baby. You can plant a tree, name your baby, or put up a page on a web site.
After awhile, it will be best for your peace of mind if you forgive the people who forced you. You won't want to. Your emotions will get in the way. But forgiveness isn't an emotion. It's a decision. It's the decision to refrain from holding what they did to you against them. Let it go. God will help. You might tell God that you don't want to forgive them, and He will have to help you. He will.
I pray that God will heal you emotionally and spiritually. We will be here for you. Please take care of yourself.
Hugs,
Pat
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