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Subject: Re: Could use some help..

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Pat

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Date Posted: 07/ 5/09 6:43am
In reply to: Marissa 's message, "Could use some help.." on 07/ 4/09 9:33pm

Hi, Marissa,

Your parents are being cruel, and you should tell them so, to their face! Tell them that they are asking you to kill their grandchild. They are also asking you to submit to what I consider medical rape, an assault that could possibly kill you or leave you seriously injured. This is one of the reasons I get so upset about all of this. A woman should never have to face this decision at all! It's cruel! If your parents realized how dangerous abortion is, they wouldn't even consider asking you to do this.

They may change their minds, but it does sound grim for the moment. Most parents DO change their minds.

If you don't want an abortion, don't have one!

You can find help with your problems by finding an organization near you that helps pregnant women. There is a list of them here:

pregnancycenters.org.

They may also help you deal with your parents.

Do the right thing. Just because your parents are pushing you to do this doesn't mean you have to give in. We will pray for you, and that you will have strength to resist their pressure. In fact, I think I'd tell them that until they can be civil to you, you are cutting THEM off.

Your baby is depending on you for your protection. Don't let his or her grandparents talk you into hurting your baby. Please keep your baby safe and protected.

We will be here for you any time you need to talk. Please let us know if you are able to find the help you need.

Hugs,
Pat

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Re: Could use some help..

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Shellie
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Date Posted: 07/ 5/09 12:29pm

Hi Marissa

I'm so sorry that your parents are behaving this way! It's normal for parents to be disappointed. However, coercing you to abort is going way too far. Be strong and go against their wishes, they will thank you for it later! Right now they want you to get rid of a "problem", a "hindrance" to your future success. Their judgment is being clouded by their desire to see you succeed in life. They are not thinking of this pregnancy as their grandchild. And they especially aren't thinking of this pregnancy as YOUR child. This is YOUR child, Marissa. It's your turn to make the parenting decisions.

There is help available to get you through your jobless situation. Although this economy is adding some difficulty to finding a job, there are still many opportunities available. The economy WILL improve, and the job market WILL improve. But and abortion is forever.

It sounds like to me that you don't want to abort. Then don't! Don't let you parents fears lead you to do something you don't want. And don't let their fears enlarge your fears. It's normal for you to worry about how you will make it. You may worry about failing and proving your parents right. Marissa, you won't fail. You came here because you want to find the strength to do what you know is right. I hope you find that strength. Strength comes from having others tell you: YOU CAN DO IT! And I know you can! It's a shame that the people who raised you don't have confidence in that. Prove them wrong.

They will love this child (after they�re down pouting over not getting their way). They will most likely come around before the baby is born. They will be so happy you didn't listen to them. And they will be embarrassed that they even suggested that you off this wonderful creature who will be the center of their world. You wait and see!

Be sure to follow the link Pat gave. The pregnancy center will direct you to all the resources that can help you through this rough time of unemployment. Don't let the current situation push you into making a life-long decision.

Please keep us updated.

Hugs,

Shellie