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Subject: Re: need advice

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Nicole

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Date Posted: 07/16/09 11:40am
In reply to: Pat 's message, "Re: need advice" on 07/16/09 9:56am

Hi Pat,

Thank you so much for writing me. When he moved out 6 months ago it was a mutual decision. He knows I've dated while he was gone, but doesn't want to know any details about it.

I completely broke things off with the man I was seeing when I realized my ex planned to move back in. I did start sleeping with my ex again once he moved in, being as how its just a matter of 2 weeks or less it wouldn't be obvious it wasn't his.

I was feeling like getting an abortion would solve everything, but I really don't want to go that route. I know I would regret it. I'm just so scared about what will happen. I don't make enough to support my daughter and a new baby on my own.

My husband is against abortion, and I know he would forgive me for having slept with another man while we were separated. But I don't know if he would want to raise it on his own.

I am going to look at those sites you posted. Thank you so much for writing me, I haven't talked to anyone else about this.

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Author: Lori [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 07/28/09 1:18pm Hi Nicole, Just wanted to see how you were doing. Please give us an update, we would love to hear from you. Take Care, Lori

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Author: Nicole [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 07/29/09 8:51am Hi, I am doing okay. I haven't told my husband yet. We've been getting along well, and he's been so nice to me that I'm just terrified to ruin everything. I am going to get an ultrasound on Friday to see exactly how far along I am.

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Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 07/29/09 7:34pm

Hi, Nicole,

I can appreciate the position you find yourself in. One thing I would like to mention, though is that if you were to try to cover up the situation, not only might it come out (especially if you decide to try abortion and you get hurt), but you will never really know how deep the reconciliation truly is. If you can tell your husband and he accepts it, you will have much more confidence that you can work things out.

I suggest that you find an organization in your area, and go talk to them about how best to tell your husband about this. You can find one by going here:

pregnancycenters.org.

Try to relax a little. I know it's hard, but try anyway. Take one day at a time. You might feel him out about how he would feel. Since he doesn't want to talk about your dalliance, that may be difficult, but regardless of what you do, it needs to be resolved. One suggestion is simply to pose a hypothetical. You know a woman who... What would he advise her to do?

Good luck. We will be praying for you. If your getting back together is meant to be, you will work things out.

Hugs,
Pat

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Re: need advice

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Lori
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Date Posted: 07/31/09 12:46pm

Hi Nicole,

I just wanted to know how your ultrasound appointment went today. I know that this must be tough for you. Your in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us updated and let us know how thing are going. If you need to talk about anything feel free to email me. I also have msn messenger if you would like to chat. My email address for my messenger is Lorik71798@hotmail.com.

Take Care,
Lori