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Subject: Re: Medical Issue

Author:
Sharon

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Date Posted: 07/25/08 6:56am
In reply to: Jessica 's message, "Medical Issue" on 07/23/08 5:16pm

Jessica,

It's normal to be confused and have mixed emotions early in a pregnancy, especially for the father. I think that while he might not think he's ready to have kids, he's already a father. Part of the reason pregnancy lasts 9 months is to give us plenty of time to get used to the idea! ;-)

If you're doctor doesn't feel that the pregnancy is going to be a serious medical risk to you, that's awesome! Bodies are very resilient. You'll probably find that you'll eat better and be healthier during a pregnancy than you might be otherwise! That's what I found: my hair and nails REALLY showed that my body was in better shape physically when I was pregnant - maybe because of the prenatal vitamins I was taking. That's something you should start taking. They're relatively cheap and a VERY good investment in your health and in your baby's health!

Also, look into the WIC (Women Infants and Children) program. It provides you with vouchers for all kinds of good, healthy food like cheese, milk, juice, iron-fortified cereal, peanut butter, beans, etc. It will even provide you with formula for a year if you decide to bottle-feed your baby - or with food for you for a year if you decide to nurse. And then it will provide your little one with food until he or she is 5! It's a great program. I found that I was a lot better off financially WHEN I was pregnant and with a little baby than I had been BEFORE I was pregnant because of the myriad of program available to insure that you and your baby have medical care and a healthy start ;-)

Sharon

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[> Subject: Re: Medical Issue

Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 07/25/08 7:13am

Hi, Jessica,

An abortion would not only put your baby at risk, it would kill your baby. So thinking of putting your baby at risk with an abortion doesn't make a lot of sense.

Find a good strong pro-life doctor. He will see you through your pregnancy. He will work for the health of you both. Abortion is dangerous, and could severely disable or even kill you. Not only that, but an abortion can do damage to your reproductive system so that you will be unable to bear a healthy child in the future. And it could make you sterile. It's not worth it.

You can do it. It won't be easy. But I got my bachelor's degree after we had four children, three of them preschoolers. If by the time your baby is born, you still feel you can't handle the situation, you can choose adoption. But my guess is that you will be ready and eager to take care of your baby.

It's common for people not to be ready to have a child. You are so lucky you have a man who will support your decision if you go ahead with your pregnancy.

Don't let a doctor who is not completely committed to medical ethics snow you. Your situation isn't one that requires you to have an abortion. Please find a good doctor who will take care of you both. Your baby is depending on you for your protection.

Hugs,
Pat