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Subject: Re: Medical Issue


Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 07/25/08 7:29pm
In reply to: Jessica 's message, "Re: Medical Issue" on 07/25/08 4:13pm

Jessica, thanks for clarifying. There is so much I want to tell you. This is why I urge you to go to a pro-life doctor, because they will treat you both, and they won't force you to choose between your own life and your baby's. Also, the doctor can change your medication. Your doctor could well be right about the fact that abortion might cause internal bleeding. This often happens even in completely normal women. You have a few months to heal. I encourage you to investigate natural methods of helping heal your body. You'd be amazed at what some of these techniques can do.

This "a baby will ruin my life" is so common. If a man doesn't want a baby, he shouldn't start one. Don't let up on telling him exactly what abortion is. He needs to know. Have him go with you to ultrasounds. No, unfortunately, pro-life people aren't exaggerating. If anything, they're understating the case, because they're afraid people won't listen. This happened with the breast cancer link, for example.

As for being selfish, I urge you to be selfish enough to welcome this little child into your life. I can tell you from personal experience you can live your life to its fullest even with a child, because I did. I don't know what your goals are. But do you want to achieve them by killing your own child? Doesn't that sound so wrong? Do you think you will still be interested in achieving your goals if you know what price you had to pay for them?

I encourage you to have big dreams. You have a long life ahead of you, and plenty of time to do lots of things. Let me tell you about what I have been able to achieve, just briefly. First, as a young adult, I helped found a national civil rights organization that is still doing very well. That was 35 years ago. We had seven children altogether, and two of them were adopted. I homeschooled them. Along the way, I got a college degree, traveled as a public speaker, learned how to take care of goats, was the general contractor for our house, learned about the uses of Sonoran Desert plants (I have an extensive manuscript on that, with my own photography), learned the law well enough to compete with lawyers in the courtroom, learned to read 15 languages and worked with over 140, learned web design, learned two new musical instruments, sang in one of the city's classical music choruses, got a second degree black belt in taekwondo, and did a great deal in the field of art. If you would like to see some of my art work, go here: http://patgoltz.deviantart.com/ If you cannot achieve your dreams, if they are worthy dreams, you're not exercising enough imagination! Much of what I achieved was BECAUSE I had children, not in spite of it.

We're here. We will help you find a way. We love you.

Hugs,
Pat

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Sharon
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Date Posted: 07/28/08 1:01pm

Jessica,

I actually didn't realize how developed the fetus actually is until my step-mom (a pro-choice ob-gyn nurse) showed me pictures of the developimg fetus in her nursing books. It blew me away how developed he was, even at a VERY early stage. Have your boyfriend go to the library and look in an medical anatomy book. It will help him to realize that the fetus is much more developed than we think. (Planned Parenthood refers to "it" as a "mass of cells" or a "blob of tissue". Well, technically I am right now a mass of cells ;-)

It's normal to worry that you haven't yet lived your "single" life enough. But, like Pat said, you cannot image the beautiful way a baby changes not only your life, but your perspective.

Sharon



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