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Subject: Re: College Student - Scared Author: Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 11/20/08 9:49am In reply to: Cassie 's message, "College Student - Scared" on 11/19/08 5:36pm Hi Cassie, Thanks for posting. I hope the support we offer helps at least a little. We do understand many of your feelings. It makes perfect sense to be scared. And telling people (especially parents) is one of the scariest parts. But many things are scarier to think about than they actually are when you just do it. Your parents are most likely going to have a negative reaction. They are going to be disappointed and they may even worry about how this will look to their family and friends. They will probably worry about your future and wonder how this is going to affect your chance for success. BUT, this is an initial reaction. Most often feelings change over time. It's best to have somewhat of a plan before sharing your news. I see that you said you know you want to place the baby for adoption. May I be so bold as to say that you should take more time to make that decision? It's normal to look for ways OUT, and adoption is a very good choice if that decision isn't based on fear. But right now you are definitely in FEAR-mode. Many college students automatically think they would never be able to finish school if they have a baby, but this is simply not true. Please give yourself time to come to such a decision. You have plenty of time! So my advice would be to visit the crisis pregnancy center and see what resources they have available if you decided to keep the baby. When you approach your parents you can tell them that you are considering adoption. Let them know that you're looking into what would be best. Show them that you are taking your time to research both options. Offer to hear their opinions, but in the end the decision is yours to make. Please continue to post and let us know how things are going. Take care, Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]