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Date Posted: 11/30/08 1:23pm
In reply to:
Lauren
's message, "Just Found Out" on 11/29/08 10:35pm
Hi, Lauren,
It sounds like you have some things going for you. First, you are already protecting your baby. You also have the "perfect" job; you can take care of your baby at the place where you work.
There are resources available. Go here:
pregnancycenters.org
You can find a pregnancy center near you. They can help you with medical expenses and other resources.
It may be somewhat dicey for a couple of years, but after that, your boyfriend may be able to get a good job, and you will be fine.
The important thing is that having an abortion would go against your own heart, and you know it. So don't have one!
Adoption is a good choice, but a very difficult one. I don't think I could ever choose it, and I'm an adoptive mother!
As for having a happy baby, I have some suggestions. First and foremost, breastfeed. It makes a HUGE difference. If your baby is fussy, there is a possibility you are eating something that she or he is sensitive to. Also, do some research on immunizations. They can damage babies. When you care for your baby, be calm; don't succumb to the temptation to jiggle the baby to quiet her. If the baby is fussy, here's a trick that works well sometimes. Put your baby in a sitting position on your lap, and then lean his chest against your hand. I don't know why this works, but it often does. You can also get your baby to mimic your own sleep patterns by keeping her awake for the most part during the day, for awhile. If you breastfeed, the baby won't sleep through the night at first. But if you keep your baby in your room with you, there will be added security, and even sleeping with him in the bed with you can be very soothing, and you can simply let him nurse when he needs to, and you can learn to sleep through it. I did that with my last one, though I never managed it with any of the others. You will want to make sure the side of the bed where your baby sleeps is against the wall or something, or if your boyfriend is sleeping with you, put the baby between you. The danger that your will harm your baby is pretty small. But that's why I advise doing research on immunizations, because they cause more mischief than just about anything else you can do.
There are probably community resources in the event you need them for some particular medical difficulty. The pregnancy center can help you find those resources.
Oh, and by the way. I also had a baby while I was in college. It worked out well.
Feel free to come and talk any time; we would love to know how you are doing.
Hugs,
Pat
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