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Subject: Re: Young, Single & Alone Author: Pat [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 12/16/08 2:41am In reply to: Lucy 's message, "Young, Single & Alone" on 12/15/08 1:56pm Hi, Lucy, I am very glad you came! If you don't want an abortion, don't have one! Since you don't want one, it would be a serious mistake. We can't know how the father will react. He may or may not come around. Most men don't connect to pregnancy until they can see some evidence for themselves. This can be to notice changes in the mother's body, hear the heartbeat, see an ultrasound, or feel movement. Just give him some space and time. You don't owe it to him to do this anyway, and he should support you because he helped make your baby, after all. As for your parents, it is most unlikely they won't come around. Most families become very supportive. And by the way, I've been there. I have a grandson who was born to my unmarried son, and I love him just as much as the other grandchildren. You aren't truly alone. Help is available. You can go here: http://www.pregnancycenters.org/ You can find a pregnancy center in your area, and they will support you in whatever way you need. And we are here to support you, too. You are already a mother; you want to protect your baby. Your baby is depending on you. We love you both. Hugs, Pat [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: Young, Single & Alone Author: Tracey [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12/16/08 10:40am Lucy~ Hello and welcome!! SO glad you found us! This is a tough situation, but it is not impossible! As far as your family goes, give them a bit of time. They are just shocked right now and their solution is to just get, "rid" of the problem! The problem, however, is that is not that easy! You have feelings and emotions already invested here. The thought of abortion is causing you stress and anxiety. I think the fact that you are unsure says a lot! And the fact that if your family were supportive, you probably wouldn't be here searching for advice. I think you already know what your heart is telling you to do. I believe the regret of an abortion would haunt you--once it's done, there's no turning back. You're young, but you can do this! We promise to help find you the support you need in your area. We are here for you and support you 100%! If you need to find a center in your area that will offer you help, guidance, and support, please let us know! I am praying for you as you make this decision! We are here for you no matter what you decide. Please keep us posted! God bless, Tracey