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Subject: Re: Going Crazy

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 12/19/08 10:19pm
In reply to: Leah 's message, "Re: Going Crazy" on 12/19/08 6:34pm

Hi Leah,

I don't know what part of Canada you live in, but here's a link with a lot of pregnancy centers there. A lot of women who found these places to be lifelines of unconditional support and assistance. They really seem to understand pregnant women and the unique set of intense emotions they experience when in the middle (especially in the beginning) of an unplanned pregnancy.

http://www.ramahinternational.org/canada.html

I hope you post back with an update if you visit one.

I'm thankful you're finding small spots of calm in the storm - like being able to 'see yourself with the baby.'

I wish you were close enough to give a hug of encouragement to! Just keep holding on the greater truths beyond the things that stress us out in the temporal here.

That's great that you made it to your prenatal. My husband and I had two children that were 'unplanned.' They are, of course, people of inexpressible joy to us now, but I remember the feelings at the first prenatal, and more specifically, when first finding out I was pregnant "again." But now - I just couldn't imagine life without them. Their sweet faces and smiles are such peace to me.

I found the history you gave of your friend who gave you the wisdom and support of reminding you that you didn't 'have' to have an abortion if it happened again very close to home. My husband's biological father not only 'didn't want him' but was adamant about his birthmother aborting him. She was only 15 when she got pregnant with him. She refused however, and placed him for adoption instead. My husband was raised by an awesome family and is now an incredible human being, husband and father. Like you said of your friend, the world is so much better for his being here.

You've been on my mind, in God's providence I believe, and I'll continue in prayer for and with you. I think you're doing awesome working through the minefield of emotions.

With Kindness,

Heather

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Re: Going Crazy

Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 12/19/08 11:08pm

Hi Leah,

I once heard a story about a man who was stranded on the roof of his house during a flood. The man prayed that God would rescue him. Soon a raft came by and offered to take the man from the house to dry land. The man refused believing that God would rescue him. After a little while, the flood waters had nearly reached the roof, and a helicopter came by to rescue the man, but he refused believing he was going to be rescued. I think sometimes we look so hard for "signs" (from God or from circumstances) that we miss them when the are right in front of us. Just like the man on the roof missed his rescue looking to be rescued. If you go back and reread your last post here, I think you may find the signs you are looking for. I am glad that coming here has helped you find some sense of peace. I hope that we can continue to be of some help and support to you.

I can't promise you that things will be smooth sailing if you have your baby, but you know from experience that abortion doesn't leave you with any real peace, either, nor is it always smooth sailing dealing with the abortion afterwards.

I do think it would be a good idea to connect with a Crisis Pregnancy Center. I did a little bit of a search and found the following links with referrals for Canada:

http://www.ramahinternational.org/canada.html
http://www.lilhayat.com/pages/pregnancy-canada.html

If none of these places are near you, let me know and I will search further.

Hang in there.

--Melanie