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Subject: Re: Going Crazy

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 01/ 3/09 1:47pm
In reply to: Leah 's message, "Re: Going Crazy" on 01/ 3/09 10:11am

Hi Leah,

I posted my last post to you before this one from you arrived.

Leah you don't have to be sorry to us; we are not your Maker or your judge. I'm just sorry for you, that you have experienced the bond with your baby and now feel you have to give way to fear.

Did you tell your boyfriend and get a negative response? Is aborting this baby what YOU really want? This is your choice and your baby. If you don't want to abort him or her, you don't have to. There are always choices, even when we have moments when we feel there is only one. There is always hope! Circumstances ebb and flow, but aborting a human life is permanent and you can't ever get them back.

Erring on the side of honoring all human life has a way of working itself out with grace, giving in to death addresses the external in removing the physical life, but it does not erase all that's deeper.

I am a big advocate of clear and open communication and would not diminish your life and your choices to a 'guilt trip.' Please know that you are of great worth, entitled to respect and autonomy in your relationship with God, and will not be thought the less of in human nature here regardless of what you choose. I know this is a painfully difficult time right now.

I will continue to keep you in my prayers, Leah; and trust that God will give you peace. Hang in there and take good care of yourself.

With Kindness,

Heather

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Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 01/ 3/09 2:50pm

Leah,

I know sometimes it seems like we are stronger here than we are. No one is strong automatically, but strength is built by our adversity.

I couldn't do it either, but I muddled through, and things worked out. If you think I had my life altogether when I had my kids, you would be mistaken. I'm quite sure they could tell you otherwise.

What happened? Something happened to put you back into fear. Something led you to believe that you couldn't have your baby.

Having and abortion now will not ever make things the same. They will be forever changed one way or another. It takes some emotional strength (or more likely, emotional numbing) to endure an abortion, especially with some of the emotions you've expressed here. I would, with all my heart, wish to spare you that.

It's still not too late to change your mind. Please keep that option open. BTW, did you ever make an appoint with a Crisis Pregnancy Center to see if there was any support for you there?

--Melanie