Subject: Re: Child not wanted by father |
Author: Pat
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Date Posted: 03/31/09 9:25pm
In reply to:
Jennifer
's message, "Child not wanted by father" on 03/31/09 5:31pm
Jennifer,
This man has betrayed you every which way, and for a very long time. Why should you give his opinion any weight at all? What kind of example is he to your daughter, betraying and abandoning you as he has done? He may be pleasant with your daughter when he is seeing her, but he is a VERY bad example. How can he do a decent job of instilling in her the values she needs to avoid being trapped into the same lifestyle?
How can having an abortion help your daughter? That is her sibling we're talking about! And what kind of example to her is that? That if she happens to get pregnant with an inconvenient child, it is acceptable to do deadly violence to that child?
Who is guilty here: your child or your husband?
Who deserves to be punished?
There are men out there who will cherish all of you. All three of you deserve a man who will be a true father and husband, who will stick by you and give you all the love you three deserve.
Your husband is perfectly willing to betray you and your daughter (and yes, he is betraying her, too) and now he wants YOU to betray your unborn child. You are a better person than that. You don't deserve the games he is playing with you. Your child is depending on you for your protection. Obviously this child isn't going to get any protection from his or her father. You are the only person who can protect your new little one.
How can you possibly say that destroying your child isn't punishment for what he did to you? I don't see how you can! If your husband doesn't want to be part of this child's life, let him go! Even if he comes around (which he very well might), do you really want his influence in your life?
Your heart has been broken. It will take time to heal. But I think you are much better off without him. It is only a matter of time before he betrays this new woman anyway.
So this child is inconvenient. Well, what he did to you is a lot more than inconvenient.
If they threaten you with trying to take your baby away from you, you still have a very strong case. The father abandoned the family and usually courts favor custody of the mother anyway. To help strengthen your case, breastfeed your baby. Do that anyway. And besides, this is just a threat. Maybe it's just a form of manipulation. You have no way of knowing. He doesn't want the complication. He's contradicting himself.
So the child came from a mistake. But God doesn't make mistakes, and He gave you this child. We don't know why, and it may take awhile before you have figured it out, but I think you will.
Just think of who is being ugly and who is innocent, and I think you will have your answer.
Well, that's my 2c worth. And by the way, you have two current children. What rational mother would hold that you should kill one of them to protect the other one?
Abortion is an ugly, violent thing to do. Your baby doesn't deserve that. Please protect your baby.
We'll be here any time you need or want to talk.
Hugs,
Pat
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