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Subject: Re: Terrified and depressed

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Pat

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Date Posted: 07/ 2/07 6:11am
In reply to: Jess 's message, "Terrified and depressed" on 07/ 1/07 7:55pm

Jess,

You are no longer alone. We are here for you! There are people in your community who are also ready to help you. What about your family? How do you think they will react?

When a woman has sex with a man, her hormones cause her to bond with him. This is one reason why it hurts so much when men abandon us. Men don't have hormones in a corresponding way.

Your baby is already well formed. S/he is depending on you for your protection. Please protect your baby.

We will need to know what difficulties you face, so we can offer you practical help. Also, feel free to come here any time and rant, or say whatever you need to say.

Try to take one day at a time. Crying can be a good release, but doing too much of it can wear you down. Get plenty of rest and take care of the two of you.

One thing you might try doing is reading the Psalms. They can be comforting. Do you know Psalm 23? The Lord is my Shepherd. ...He maketh me to lie down in green pastures, He leadeth me by still waters, He restoreth my soul.

We will be praying for you.

Hugs,
Pat

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Jess
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Date Posted: 07/ 2/07 6:06pm

Thank you Pat. This is hard. I don't feel right. I'm supposed to be happy. I feel so bad that I'm not happy for having a baby. Is something wrong with me. It just doesn't seem right to me. How can I be so empty? I do want this baby but sometimes the right feelings aren't there and that scares me. I read pslam 23 and it does help but I just feel so lonely. My family is a problem. I don't know how to communicate with some of them. They have destructive words and I am tired of dealing with their negativity. I thought my fiance was so real. How could I be so blind? I love him, but now I'm angry and hurt. This is just too many feelings to be feeling at one time. I'm trying to get control of them to protect my baby like you said. I want to love this baby so much, I don't want to mess up because of my mistakes and my desire to have my ex back in my life.