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Subject: Re: New here.. Author: Lori [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07/ 9/07 11:45am In reply to: Meaghan 's message, "New here.." on 07/ 8/07 4:07pm Hi, Meaghan, Welcome to the board. I like Pat don't understand why your mom would be upset unless she didn't want you to get married. That is water under the bridge so to speak because you are married and married people have children. Don't let what others think or say upset you. You and your husband are married and are going to have a baby and you should be happy and enjoy this experience. Having your first child is so exciting and its something that should be enjoyed not worried over especially if your worrying about what others may think or say. If I were you I would call your mom with your husband on the phone and tell her the good news or send her a card that says something like congratulations grandma! If your mom does say something like, what were you thinking? or something to that effect just say "mom, my husband and I are having our baby and we would like for you to be happy for us." Leave it at that, you owe no one any explanations. You do need to respect your parents and honor them but in doing so you can also let your parents know that this is your decision. A life has been created and no one can take that back. Your mom is probably just concerned and that is okay most parents are concerned for their children. But, your an adult now there is no need to worry about disappointing your mom. COngratulations!! Please continue to keep us updated. We wouild love to hear from you. If you need anyone to talk to please feel free to email me any time. God Bless, Lori [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: New here.. Author: Melanie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07/12/07 5:20am Hi Meaghan In all this you didn't really say much about how your husband feels. You know a lot of the ladies went to school here with children. I went a few semesters myself when mine were younger. While finishing college is a good goal, it's not the end of the world if you don't. It depends on what YOU want. If you want to go to school, there usually is a way. As for telling your mom, the best thing is to just pick a day when she isn't already overly stressed. Maybe you could do something nice with her first. Be happy about it. If she's not, then that is her reaction, it doesn't have to be yours. Quite often, women fear the worst when telling a parent(s) about their pregnancy, and the worst doesn't always come about. Even if she is disappointed or upset, things change. Initial reactions can be difficult, but they can also be fleeting. It really is rare for a grandparent to do anything but love their grandchild. The best you can do is just to remember this and to not take her initial reaction personally. I know that's easier said than done. Once you tell your mom, though, you will not have to deal with that one stress anymore, so I would encourage you to tell her soon. Maybe you could get her a grandmother card and a brag book? ;) You can get through this, and she'll survive, also. LOL Let me know what happens.