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Subject: need help and fast.... Author: stacey [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07/26/07 10:50pm my name is stacey im 21 years old and im 11 weeks pregnant. i've made appointments for an abortion but don't know if im doing the right thing?? im very lost and i cry alot becuause i don't know whats right. It is a unplanned pregnancy and it's not my boyfriend's baby. It was a mistake and i cheated oh him with my friend's brother and i got pregnant. im so lost right now and the only thing that came to mind was abortion. because this is my first pregnancy and i didn't want it to be with someone im not with i didn't want it to be a one night stand. if i do keep it will my kid hate me? im thinking alot and just don't know what i should do. my boyfriend doesn't know that im pregnant and im scared to tell him i'am because it's not his baby and im scared he will leave me. i've made an abortion appointment and its in 2 weeks. am i doing the right thing? please give me some advice. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: need help and fast.... Author: Lori [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07/27/07 4:38am Hi Stacey, Welcome to the board. I know you must be really confused right now and scared but please take some time to think about all of your options before you consider having a abortion. You should look into abortion so that you can make an informed decision. Right now I think the best thing for you to do is to find a local crisis pregnancy center. They have counselors that you can talk with to discuss different options. If you want to find a pregnancy center closest to you go to www.pregnancycenters.org. I know right now you feel like your on a emotional rollercoaster but take some time to think and really know what you want to do. If you make a decision to abort your child because you don't want your boyfriend to be mad etc I think you would regret it. This boyfriend may not be in your life forever but this child will always be yours. Please feel free to email me any time, we are all here for you. Your in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless, Lori

[> Subject: Re: need help and fast.... Author: Shellie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07/30/07 9:26pm Hi Stacey, I just came across the slideshow (below). A mother who lost her baby at 8 weeks 5 days put it together. There are photos of her almost 9 week fetus after he was born at home. If you want to see it just click the big arrow (I had to click twice to get it to play). I'll be right back to post a message to you. Make photo slide shows at www.OneTrueMedia.com Take care, Shellie

[> [> Subject: Precious video Author: Lori [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07/30/07 11:01pm Shellie, That video was so precious and sad. It is a reality though, I'm so glad that the parents of this child had the courage to make this slideshow video to show people the truth. It's just so sad that abortion clinics want show you what your really aborting.

[> Subject: Re: need help and fast.... Author: Shellie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07/30/07 11:48pm Hi Stacey, I'm back. I emailed earlier today with some questions. I thought that I might be able to help you better if I had more information to go on. I was wondering how you know that this baby doesn't belong to your boyfriend. Are you 100% sure of that? My above post includes the montage showing what a 9-week fetus looks like. Did you view it? Is that what you expected it to look like? I think women should always know what their baby looks like and how much development has taken place BEFORE they abort. This can be devastating news when it's learned AFTER the abortion. When I talk to women who are considering abortion I want to say so much to them. It's hard to choose which aspects to cover. This is a big decision. Whether you choose to continue or abort, your life will never be the same. Having an abortion will not take away that the fact that you are already a mother. It will only make you a mother of a dead child. I know this sounds harsh. But it is also the reality. I don't want you to think that the abortion will make all your problems go away and you'll be this happy carefree person. It can be very hard to deal with the fact that you ended your baby's life. Being pro-choice doesn't mean you'll be okay with aborting. It's normal to want out of an unplanned pregnancy. And I can see that your pregnancy would cause you some embarrassment and possibly problems with your boyfriend. But Stacey, aborting can also cause many problems! The boyfriend you're seeing may not be around in 10 years, but your baby will. If you choose to abort then that won't be the case. But I hope you don't miss out on knowing your little one! The baby that you don't want right now is the same baby you will grow to love with all your heart and soul! How can I be so sure? Because most mothers love their children---even the UNPLANNED/UNWANTED ones! All the problems you're facing right now will not seem like such a big deal once you let yourself love your baby. Will your child hate you? For what, letting him/her live? You've made one mistake you feel bad about, why make another one that you'll regret and feel guilty about? I have a lot to say so I'll post again at another time. In the meantime I'll be praying for you. Take care, Shellie

[> [> Subject: Re: need help and fast.... Author: Tracey [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/ 1/07 4:15am Stacey~ Hello and welcome! The ladies in the previous post have given all the advice I could ever offer. I just want to encourage you today to look into all your resources. You wouldn't be here now seeking help, if you weren't struggling with this gut-wrenching decision. But you are and I am happy that you are seeking the help and advice of others. Stacey, there are so many resources out there that can help and assist! We can help you with those resources if you'd like. I hope you got a chance to view the video clip Shellie sent. Please keep us posted and let us know how we can help! You will be in my prayers! God bless, Tracey